I really need help with this, im a new mum and not sure if im doing the right thing.
DD is 14 weeks old. Shes very talkative in baby language, very observant with whats happening around her, loves being spoken to, played with etc.
Shes not keen on being left on her own (even if i only pop to the loo)
She will happlily sometimes sit in her bouncy chair without being entertained providing she can see somebody.
I thought this was normal behaviour.
However dd has been get very distressed for some time now if not constantly entertained.
Off to the GP i went, thinking there most be something wrong if dd isnt settling very well.
GP checked her over, said he couldnt find anything medically wrong and that he feels this is a "behavioural issue" and to contact my HV.
So i arrive home, contact my HV, had a good chat, she tells me shes never heard of a doctor say that its a behaviour issue with a child so young.
As DD sleeps through the night and has done from around 7 weeks old, the hv says its not behavioural as she ll be the same during the night.
I went to see the hv the next day at the weighing clinic and dd got very very aggitated when there and it took ages to settle her, other parents were staring etc. Again hv sat with me whilst i fed her to see if it was "silent reflux" etc. She does not feel it was and asked me to take her back to the GP to have her urine tested to rule out infection.
I got a urine sample and off we went to the GP with it. The urine test was clear. The doctor said that i was "making a rod for my own back" by constantly attending to dd crying etc within a short space of time and i had to train her to behave in the way i think is acceptable.
I always believed (i have done alot of training with babies and children in the past but not recent) that babies cry for a reason and that by not attending to them youre teaching them that nobody comes etc.
I have been told by a family member that i do a hell of a lot of interacting with dd more than the average parent, and maybe thats why shes expecting it all the time etc.
HV has said that dd is more advanced for her age regarding alertness, back posture and how she supports her head etc and that she just needs a lot of stimulation and gets bored easy.
By interacting so much with dd am i building a rod for my own back and making her have a "behavioural issue"
Any advice more than welcome. I dont know if im doing the right thing by being so attentive towards her.
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in refusing to believe that im teaching my daughter to be this way?
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Losingexcessweight · 23/01/2013 16:04
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