DD is 10 and is basically a good kid - nice manners, doing OK at school etc etc - but she is becoming very blase about treats, trips out etc and, to use a MN favourite word, a bit 'entitled'. I know some people will think we've created this problem by being typical middle class parents and I don't expect a great deal of sympathy but I would like to know if I'm BU to expect a bit more thought from her.
We're not rich by any means but are OK. We try hard not to spoil DD but like most of our friends we've had a week away in the UK this summer plus a few days out. This means saving throughout the year, juggling annual leave, working hard before and after the holiday to make up for the time off and so on but she doesn't seem to give that any thought, just takes it all for granted and pesters for ice creams, meals out etc on top.
She also seems quite underwhelmed by things we do a lot of the time - eg I got her tickets to one of her favourite bands as a birthday present and we went to the concert on Saturday. I think she enjoyed it but she almost seem to shrug it off as just another trip out, no big deal - she hardly told DH anything about it when we got home and didn't even thank me for taking her.
It's the same with clothes shopping - she's incredibly fussy, even about school stuff, and doesn't seem to realise that buying new uniform costs enough without her pestering for branded trainers and a third new school bag in 4 terms. I expected to have to deal with this when she's a teenager but not at 10!
She's also very reluctant to put much effort into anything, dashes off homework as quickly as she can and never seems to take much trouble over anything. She's much worse at amusing herself in the holidays than she used to be - she'd prefer to sit watching TV for half the day than do anything creative. She will help around the house if nagged but doesn't do it with very good grace. It's as though she expects a nice life without having to do anything to earn it and I don't want her to grow up thinking that's how things are.
I was reassured when I spoke to friends that other kids are similarly thoughtless but I think they are old enough now to understand that nice things are earned and should be appreciated not taken for granted. I don't expect them to start behaving like adults but a little thought would be nice when people are working bloody hard to make life pleasant for them.
I want to address this before it's too late and the new school term seems a good time to introduce some rules/routines but I'm not sure how to go about it. DD can be lovely girl but I'm worried if we don't crack down on this she is going to become a spoilt little madam who expects everything handed to her on a plate.
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WhyTheBigPaws · 27/08/2012 18:43
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