To have a ^huge^ crush on DCs teacher...

[Actinglikeateenager]

Because I feel like I'm going a bit mental...

Am (happily) married and definitely wouldn't act on it, btw.

When I first met DC's new teacher I remember thinking 'mmm he's quite yummy' but then thought no more of it. Fast forward to about a month ago and DCs class put on a show, and afterwards the parents had the chance to look around the class at the costumes, etc they'd made. I couldn't help noticing that DCs teacher seemed to single me out a bit and kept chatting to me - and stood a bit closer than 'normal' - and had very twinkly smiley eyes.... And pathetic as it sounds, having been married a loooooooong time, I enjoyed the attention from another man and (possibly) was a bit flirty.

Since then I've definitely caught him looking over at me morning & afternoon in the playground - and last week after school he came over and started chatting to me - conversation was something like

him: 'hello how are you'

me: 'Oh no, what's she (DD's name) done?' (laughing)

him: 'oh nothing, (she's) doing great - I just saw you standing here shiverring away and thought I'd come and say hi'

blah blah blah....

When he talks to me he definitely has a flirty twinkle in his eye and there is alot of eye contact and smileyness.

The problem is though, why can't I just think 'ooh this is nice' and then forget it and get on with my day? Why have I (over the last few days) found myself thinking about him all the time, playing sloppy songs on my ipod and generally acting like a 15 year old when i fancied George Michael?

I would never cheat on my DH, I love him and the thought of anyone coming between us (on either side) is devastating. So what's wrong with my head? And am I just reading too much into his friendly-ness anyway?

Someone slap me.

[Actinglikeateenager]

PS AIBU?

[BupcakesandCunting]

Do you ever think he might just "single you out" to talk to because you seem friendly?

[Actinglikeateenager]

Yes that could be the case - thank you bupcakes for the slap

Keep 'em coming....

[redrubyshoes]

Are you due on soon? I get a bit weird a few days before my period.

[TroublesomeEx]

I would not flirt with a parent in the playground.

Please don't assume he's flirting!

If it got out that you have a crush, then your DD would be mortified. They'll talk about you in the staff room...

It's more likely that he just finds you to be one of the more approachable and 'normal' parents. Which is a far greater compliment!

[TroublesomeEx]

[Actinglikeateenager]

No but I'm mid-cycle. That does turn me into a bit of a slapper sometimes though

[Actinglikeateenager]

God I feel stupid now - you are probably right but a sad little voice in my head is saying 'ooh but maybe he does like me'...

Slap me harder.

[Lilaclion]

Apparently when you're ovulating you find yourself attracted to all and sundry, just your body's way of trying to keep the human race going......so keep well away when you're ovulating !

[TrinityRhino]

lol I really think he is NOT flirting

its because you find him attractive that you 'see' the flirting which isn't flirting

believe me, I know, I think one of my kids teachers is scrummy
and hes so kind and always talks to me nicely and is so kind to my dc

blah blah blah

he isn't singling you out

you're just seeing everything he does as 'wonderful' cause you fancy him

yanbu just realise its all in your head, keep it there and enjoy it

[Mumof1plustwins]

Glad the only male teachers in DDs school are ...less than desirable! And the other dads are nothing to write home about!

Do something nice with the family and/or DH to remind yourself why he's the one!

[TrinityRhino]

hes just a nice guy is all

[Actinglikeateenager]

Ok so now I have to confess the worst bit -

last night I thought about him at an inappropriate time with DH....

That's terrible isn't it?

[AKissIsNotAContract]

I think that's normal (at least I hope it is because I do it with DP)

[Mumof1plustwins]

Uh oh DH might be hurt by that but then again a lot of people fantasise during sex...
My DH reckons he's never fantasised about anyone else but me whilst we have sex although I think masturbating maybe different?

Just don't get so head over heels in coockoo land that you do something stupid!

[IKilledIgglePiggle]

Are you bored? DS1 has had male teachers for the past two years, the first one looked like a fat Kurt Cobain and this years teacher is from New Zealand, he's about my age and bless him at parents evening he told us he wasn't from this country, yes dear I gathered that on hearing your very strong accent.

I'm dying to wear my Flight of the Conchords T Shirt at the next parents evening.

[Actinglikeateenager]

Oooooooooh shine do you really????

[Mumof1plustwins]

Just a tip - imagine your DH was having flirty chats with a woman on the way to work how would you feel??
Then keep thinking about that feeling everytime you feel the urge to flirt!

[OffMeTrolley]

Yeah I read on another forum op your husband can only get it up when he thinks about the woman in the office
How we laughed at how nice that must make you feel lol

[secretary]

Thinking about other people during sex is fine, as long as it's not Real Life People, IMO. That doesn't count.