Right - this is causing friction between me and DP so really AIBU?
We have been together of nearly 12 years (I'm 30 he's 32) Expecting first DC in december.
About 5 years ago he started asking (I mean bringing it up not actually proposing) about marriage. My thing has always been that I was too young, didn't want to get married at 25, we where moving house, new job etc. He excepted that.
And it has come up systematically ever since. More so since we found out I'm pregnant.
Now there is no doubt in my mind that he is 'it', and that we will always be together ect.
But over the last few years (more so now in the last months or so) he has become adament that we should be married. He uses every reason in the book easier, makes things simpler etc but it is more than that He really really wants to be married, to be someones husband to have a wife etc.
My excuses to him have always been just that excuses. Really I have an adversion to being married (usual thing saw parents messy messy divorce as a teenager, dad never remarried, mums remarried twice and is always telling me this is the one. Brother married young divorced about a year later etc) DP on other hand wants what his parents have (35 years and counting). He has happy thoughts of marriage, I have only negative/upsetting thoughts about it
It is now causing arguments almost constantly, with DP saying that IABU because basically I don't want to be married, I never have and I don't think I ever will
So really AIBU?
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Imnotdarrellrivers · 29/08/2011 14:53
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