After a rather difficult time we have been incredibly lucky and conceived twins after our first cycle of ICSI. We feel totally blessed and are very excited by their arrival early next year.
Only our immediate circle of family and friends knew we were having treatment and though we are not embarrassed or ashamed that we required fertility treatment to conceive, there are some people who we've chosen not to share this information with. I personally think it doesn't matter how they were conceived.
So I was fairly shocked that my DH's friend's wife (who is an extremely competitive and abrasive individual) dismissed our pregnancy to one of my very best friends saying 'they were trying for ages, so it was probably IVF'. (which led to my BF feeling the need to defend us and telling her they were natural - which is very unlike her!) We have given these friends of DH no reason to think we were trying for ages or that we were having treatment, so this can only have come as a rumour through an ex-friend who knew when we'd started trying, a fair amount of time ago. However she doesn't know whether we have had fertility treatment or not, so why comment at all?
I know it shouldn't matter, but I really can't understand why anyone would say something like that - why does it matter how the twins were conceived and if they are a result of fertility treatment, would you not naturally feel even happier for the lucky couple, that they have been successful after what would probably have been quite a difficult time????
Does having fertility treatment in her eyes make the babies some how lesser to her child? Or the pregnancy any less exciting or wonderful? I really can't understand her attitude and though I'd never stop my DH seeing his friend, I have absolutely no inclination to see them ever again.
Have any of you encountered such a bizarre reaction?
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plumtrees · 20/08/2011 22:39
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