This will make me instantly identifable so will try and be brief.
Sadly DPs uncle died, he left three adult children behind, a brother (DPs dad) and a Sister.
DP and I have a 9 week old son.
All the other relatives are more distant, not frequently seen other than at weddings, funerals, family events. None have met our DS.
DS has been the only baby born in the family for 25 years.
So, the problem is this:
Understandbly, we have been asked that DS doesn't attend the church service - I totally agree with this and wouldn't have taken him anyway.
But, we have also been told that DS isn't welcome at the wake afterwards (in a child friendly pub) as (and I quote) "He would take the limelight away from the decesed" and they want people to be thinking of him rather than paying attention to DS.
Now, DP and his parents are offended and have had words with the deceaseds adult children saying that DS is family too and that they can't understand why he is barred from the wake. Questions will be asked as to the whereabouts of DS and I, and I am sure comments will be made when they find out we wern't allowed to come. There will be an atmosphere and it will be uncomfortable for everyone - DP and his parents will probably leave after having a quick drink.
Now, I am not overly concerned really whether DS and I are there or not, but I can see that this is going to run and run with me at the centre of it. I can't leave DS with a babysitter as I am breastfeeding and plus I don't want too. DP and his parents want to introduce the baby to their side of the family, they are proud of DS and feel he has been snubbed.
So who if anyone is being unreasonable, and whats the solution?
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Not sure who if anyone is being unreasonable and how to sort this out.
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PrisonerZero · 18/08/2011 13:41
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