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AIBU?

To send in shop brought samosas for Ramadhan?....

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GaramMasalaGirl · 06/08/2011 23:59

It's Ramadhaan right now and DD (19) works in a call centre where the other fasters bring in TONS of gorgeous yummy HOME-COOKED food. Although DD isn't fasting, she wants to join in and take some samosas into work. She has asked me to help her cook them but I just CBA to spend hours and hours cooking them.

I made a few just before the start of the month and stuck them in the freezer and as there's only me, DD & DS at home we don't normally need to cook massive quantities of food......so bearing in mind that they'll probably taste better just as good as my homemade ones, would it be awful to send in some shop brought samosas?

DD thinks I'm BU and not getting into the spirit of Ramadhaan (being charitable, selfless etc etc) and is now not talking to me!

So what do you all think? (it's my first post here so please be gentle)

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squeakytoy · 07/08/2011 00:00

make some.. you know they will taste nicer really :)

curlyredhair · 07/08/2011 00:02

I think it's fine, no-one will know and surely the point is to take something? If your dd feels that strongly, tell her to make them.

LordOfTheFlies · 07/08/2011 00:03

Can you do some savoury rice to serve cold?
If you've got the vegetables for samosas then you can use them.

LauraIngallsWilder · 07/08/2011 00:04

If she doesnt want to take shop bought samosas - she could make them herself. (as that would be a charitable act, saving you the bother!) :o

Sewmuchtodo · 07/08/2011 00:04

Marks and Sparks make some fab ones, pop them in a pretty tin and no one will know

That way you can spend time thinking up what charitable things you can do instead of cooking!

Pishwife · 07/08/2011 00:05

I think if DD wants to take treats into work, at 19 she can buy & make them herself!

worraliberty · 07/08/2011 00:06

I think your 'darling' daughter should make them herself.

Why does she expect you to make them if she wants to bring them to work?

MrsDmitriTippensKrushnic · 07/08/2011 00:10

Sit on a comfy chair in the kitchen, with a nice book, put your feet up and supervise her making them. I see no reason why you should be making them for her, and if she wants home cooked ones, well then she knows where the stove is...

kim111 · 07/08/2011 00:11

I used to work in a call centre and at least half the people bringing in food bought it rather than made it themselves, they got it from Indian shops rather than M&S, Sainsburys etc though. No one seemed to mind :)

squeakytoy · 07/08/2011 00:13

In fairness, OP did say her daughter had asked for help, not for OP to just make them...

Not sure why it would take hours though. I can whip up a dozen of them in about half an hour :)

Pishwife · 07/08/2011 00:13

TBH at a bring & share I tend to prefer the shop-bought things.

A home-cooked rice salad that had been sitting at room temperature would give me the shivers.

GaramMasalaGirl · 07/08/2011 00:16

DD is actually quite a good cook better than me but she's not quite that organised yet and hasn't yet learned to clean as she goes along which means the kitchen will end up looking like a bomb site!!

Laura I didn't even think about flipping the "charitable act" argument....good thinking

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LynetteScavo · 07/08/2011 00:19

If she wants to take in samosas, tell her to clean make them and clean teh kitchen herself...she's hardly a baby!

Or buy them in from a reputable local shop....ne one will know you didn't make them.

worraliberty · 07/08/2011 00:25

She's 19 and hasn't learnt to clean yet?

Back away now OP...either let her buy them or show her how to cook them and 'learn' to clean after herself.

Blimey, at 19 some women are married with a few children.

Thruaglassdarkly · 07/08/2011 00:31

Sorry, your 19 yo DD is not talking to YOU because YOU wouldn't "enter into the spirit of Ramadam" (I assuming she's a muslim to want to enter into the spirit of a faith, as faiths are taken pretty seriously by their adherants and are not just something to opt in and out of because everyone else is celebrating it) by making home-made samosas????

Sorry, but she should be making her own if she feels that strongly.

Why would you even think for a second that YABU, because she is and you most certainly are not!

GaramMasalaGirl · 07/08/2011 00:38

Worra- yup, I'd been married off and got preggers at 19!!

TBF I haven't really made much of a culinary effort thus far for Ramadhan, most people I know are having elaborate and lavish feasts every day! So I guess I'm feeling guilty that when DCs do fast I just stick a pot of curry and rice in front of them!

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HerBeX · 07/08/2011 00:45

I'm a bit puzzled by this. Why are they taking food to work when they're supposed to be fasting? Is it because they do shifts and therefore are working at the time when they're allowed to eat?

If so, I'd buy some, then get a rolling pin and distress them a bit so they look rough and ready home-made. Your DD will never know...

Failing that, why don't you just give her the ones from the freezer?

worraliberty · 07/08/2011 00:47

Well you either do it or you don't in your house?

If you don't, that's your decision and no need for guilt...it can't be done in half measures or there's no point to it at all.

It's like giving up something for Lent...but then having a bit of it and giving it up again before having a bit more.

If you are no religious enough to do it properly and your daughter just wants to 'get into the spirit of it' that's understandable...but as a grown adult, she doesn't need to be involving you.

scottishmummy · 07/08/2011 00:53

if dd so bothered she can make samosa.home made like a goddess
otherwise sainsbo finest will suffice

GaramMasalaGirl · 07/08/2011 00:57

HerBeX she works the late shift and the fasts don't break until 9.00 in the evening. The company are very accommodating and allow the fasters to take their break around that time so they can shovel as much food down as they can eat

The ones in the freezer are MINE for the DCs when I cba haven't got time to cook a proper meal and can make their post fast meal of pasta a bit more special by bunging them a few somosas

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greenbananas · 07/08/2011 01:03

Does your daughter work a night shift? I'm confused - I thought Ramadan was for fasting between sunrise and sundown, and that all the yummy home-cooked food was exchanged at Eid (celebratory day at the end of Ramadan)...

I don't think buying samosas etc. is a problem at all - after all, your daughter has presumably not been raised to make tons of home cooked food from scratch. However, you/your daughter will need to make sure that that any food she takes in is Halal - I'm not sure if supermarket brands are Halal but no doubt the packaging will enlighten you.

greenbananas · 07/08/2011 01:05

(sorry, cross posts about the night shift)

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HerHissyness · 07/08/2011 01:07

Are samosas eaten during ramadan? I only ask cos in Egypt snacks like falafel were not available at all until after eid as (apprently) they make you thirsty.

GaramMasalaGirl · 07/08/2011 01:29

GB - yes you're right, fasting is between sunrise and sundown and although the focus during the month isn't meant to be on food for some reason the obsession becomes....FOOD ( dieters might be able to identify with this). All the conversations revolve around....FOOD.

And you're right about Eid as well, it does involve the exchange of.....FOOD! I don't know why we cant just keep and eat our own food rather than make tons and tons and send it round to everyone else.

HerHissy - haven't ever heard that about samosas, other foods yes but not samosas.

I used to fast (not so religious anymore) and the worst thing I did was glug down a whole bottle of coke, very satisfying for the 1st 10 minutes, not so much after then!

I quite like HerBeX's idea of distressing shop brought ones.....if only to keep the peace

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iscream · 07/08/2011 02:24

Are you fasting at home?

DD should make them and also clean up afterwards, at her age.

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