A friend pops over occassionally with her 2 kids but I just find it so chaotic when they are here and wonder if I'm expecting too much for 5 year olds or whether mum should reign them in a bit? Ds is ok usually but also sometimes breaks certain house rules when they are here. Behaviour includes:
Keep hassling the dog when I can see he's had enough despite repeated requests
Leaving dog biscuits in little piles on the floor to feed dog - when asked not to countless times on previous visits
Not taking off wet shoes that have been in rain when coming in from garden - when asked not to few minutes previously
Continously going into my bedroom when explained it's out of bounds
Rifling though the kitchen cupboards rather than ask me when they want a snack
Not EVER helping or offering to help tidy up toys after visit when toys left all over house
Using bed as trampoline
To use my clean hair towel (only clean one left!) to wipe wet trampoline without asking
Shouting "NO!!" when I say something like "Can you please leave the dog alone now"
I do like her kids, they are very lively and make me laugh a lot, and I'm glad they feel comfortable in my house, but feel they should be taught to have a bit more respect when in someone elses house?
AIBU?
to expect kids to better behaved at my house?
whethergirl · 17/06/2011 23:50
Other peoples (and your own) DC can go a bit OTT when round at somebody elses house (showing off mostly 
), but it's up to the parents to see it and sort them.
What was your friend up to when they were creating havoc?
Jesus Christ even my own kids are not allowed in my bedroom..I'd be buggered if I allowed anyone else's in there 
No way is that behaviour acceptable and to be perfectly honest, it wouldn't happen in my house.
I'm not over the top strict by any means but if people don't respect my home they can feck off..that goes for kids and adults alike.
I agree that it's totally normal behaviour for 5 YOs, but you have to pull them up on it.
Could the mum not want to shout the place down tell them as strictly as she normally might because they're at someone elses house?
And if she's got two, then she'll be used to refereeing them and be taking it more in her stride, whereas if you've only got the one DS you're just stood there at the rumpus two of the little blighters plus your own can make
We only had DD1 for 9 years and I was always amazed at how much noise DC can make when they're doubled in numbers
But if the DCs don't have any pets of their own TheDogs, they might really zero in on the interaction a dog can give.
They don't sound to have been playing roughly or with malice with the dog (or the OP'd given them what for) they just didn't know the rules.
Bet dog thought all his birthdays came at once with them giving him piles of biscuits
Do you have a dog crate. I found this worked when dd1's new friends would leave my cat alone....
Newfriend: What's that
me; It's what the pets use so they can have some peace when they need it
NF: Oh, do they go in there to sleep?
me: No, I lock children in there when they won't leave them alone after they have been asked to
NF:
Seriously, I would be having words with your friend. She should be taking him home if she can't keep him relatively calm and obeying your rules. I'm also very blunt in telling children my pets will bite them if they torment them, even though Whippy and Fat Cat would chew off their own tails before they bit a child and I don't allow new children near Devil Dog until I know them well enough to know they won't crowd him, because he would bite, without a shadow of a doubt, he would.
Next time she asks to come round tell her yes, but if she does not control her son, you will have to start meeting elsewhere.
I could have wrote this post op 
Drives me mad. I only have one ds, but if I had a dozen kids I still wouldn't let them away with half what I see. Ds had a school friend round last week who poured candlewax all over my living room rug, when ds told me I thought he might be joking. Asked the boy what happened and fully expected him to deny it. No, brazen as you like, told me he just 'felt like it'
Told him mum and she changed the subject. That's why kids do it, no consequences. I am still waiting on an apology.
Oh dear - your poor dog!
My worry would be if he got thoroughly fed up (and who could blame him!) and nipped them. All hell would break loose then and the poor dog would possibly be blamed.
And jumping on the beds/going into your bedroom?? - not in my house, not even with my grandchildren. My kids didn't get to do that and neither did their friends. What on earth is the matter with parents who allow their kids to do this at other people's houses??
@ perfumedlife - the mother changed the subject?? Blimey - I'd have been incensed!!
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Salmotrutta, a week later and I'm growing an ulcer over it
Must learn to say no. The irony is, ds is so self contained, he actually can't be arsed if pals come round or not, finds them a bit annoying and loud. I keep having them thinking it's good for him. Maybe I should just not bother?
Can I just tell you btw Salmotrutta, I love reading your posts, you crack me up. Want to be you when I grow up
ps. Totally sober, just insomniac. And ulcerative.
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