This is my first post so please don't flame me!
Am just looking for opinions.
DSD aged 8 lives with me and DH at the weekends, we also have 2 sons. She lives with her mum and her partner during the week. I have heard her referring to her SD as dad, and more so have seen emails from him to her where he calls himself dad. I feel this is quite disrespectful to my DH - I would never, ever call myself DSD's mummy though I love her very much, as she already has a mummy.
Anyway I had a big chat with her tonight and she said she would like to call me mummy and her DSD daddy.
I just said we would have a proper chat about it and that of course she could call me what she wanted but that she does only have one mummy and that that is very special. Basically a part of me just feels that calling two people mummy and two people daddy is not healthy and ultimately confusing...also, I know this is going to break my DH's heart, hearing her ask if she can call someone else daddy. I feel so upset for DSD as I know she finds the whole situation (even though her parents split when she was a baby and both couples have been together since she was about 2)very confusing and difficult. I don't want to tell her she can't call me mummy but feel that it is not right somehow as she has a mummy, and same for her stepdad.
I also feel annoyed at her SD for calling himself dad without consulting my DH and asking if he minds - he is already quite disrespectful of my DH and regularly disciplines DSD in front of DH, in our home, telling her to LISTEN and BEHAVE HERSELF - we haven't said anything about it to them (yet).
I know DSD comes first and we all have to put our feelings aside, but isn't it better that she calls us some other special name?
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sparklymacaroons · 03/12/2010 21:40
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