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Flatmate has left leaving me up the creek

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EachandEveryone Sat 04-Apr-20 10:23:48

I wonder how long before I can get another one. My rent has doubled since I had a knock on the door last night. Flat mates mum turned up to empty her room. She was really lovely as well. Not even a text. Apparently she went to NI has caught a chest infection and been put on antibiotics and her mum has told her she needs to move back home! I want to say see how the land lies she might want to come back in afew weeks.

So Im all on my own some and my rent has shot up from £700 to £1250 plus bills. Im trying not to worry but I need to make a plan. Im lucky in that Im a nurse and of course there’s overtime but thats not without its risks.

Will people ever return to London? I cant ask for help and theres no point telling the landlord as they know Im a nurse and Ive been here 15 years.

BuffaloCauliflower Sat 04-Apr-20 10:27:34

Is the tenancy only in your name and you sublet the room to this flatmate?

DonnaDarko Sat 04-Apr-20 10:27:56

Are you both on the tenancy agreement and didn't she give notice? What does the agreement say? She could still be liable for her portion of the rent until she finds a replacement.

Jozen Sat 04-Apr-20 10:28:56

Inform your landlord asap that the flatmate has left due to medical reasons and go from there.
There's not much more you can do at present time. You could advertise for new flatmate but people probably aren't moving much unless they've found themselves in a similar situation with housing.

Veterinari Sat 04-Apr-20 10:29:37

If you have separate tenancy agreements then she is responsible, not you

Jozen Sat 04-Apr-20 10:31:46

If you have separate tenancy agreements then she is responsible, not you

That's true, or were you subletting?

EachandEveryone Sat 04-Apr-20 10:36:57

Subletting. Always have. Im the longterm tenant its always been the case. Everyone prefers it that way.

EachandEveryone Sat 04-Apr-20 10:37:58

Her rents been paid til the 20th. I hope shes ok.

Atalune Sat 04-Apr-20 10:39:17

You need to speak to your landlord and come to arrangement.

DianaT1969 Sat 04-Apr-20 10:39:30

Could you find a NHS flatmate? I hear that some are having to leave their families in order to shield them. Is there a NHS accommodation service at your hospital?

MairzyDoats Sat 04-Apr-20 10:40:35

I hope she's ok too, sounds like her mammy is the overbearing type! She may well want to come back once she's better, can you contqct her? I appreciate that these are scary times but surely she has a job and a life?!

Useryokyesno Sat 04-Apr-20 10:57:00

Did you have subletting contract with your flatmate?

FamilyOfAliens Sat 04-Apr-20 10:58:12

I’m surprised you let a stranger into your house in the current climate. I hope she kept her distance and scrubbed down everything she touched afterwards.

Northernsoullover Sat 04-Apr-20 10:59:46

If you are the same poster I think you are am I right in thinking your landlord is aware that you sublet? If so I would just ask for a reduction. The worst they can say is no

Alsohuman Sat 04-Apr-20 11:01:16

I’m surprised you let a stranger into your house in the current climate

I expect she let herself in with her daughter’s key.

EachandEveryone Sat 04-Apr-20 11:01:53

A contract makes no difference.

She’s very precious the other week she text me to come and rescue her because she couldn’t get out of a dress she’d tried on. There’s some anxiety there. Yes she was up
To the 4th stage with the police and has a job she could walk to. Her aunt got Ill she went home and deep down I had a feeling I’d never see her again. I wonder if it’s because they didn’t want her sharing with a nurse?

Hiphopopotamus Sat 04-Apr-20 11:02:27

I was waiting for the first person to say that the mother should not have been in the flat hmm it’s like Coronavirus bingo

whataboutbob Sat 04-Apr-20 11:02:43

If you want the landlords perspective, and probably correct information, try posting on Landlordzone. The old pros on there will have come across this kind of situation.

EachandEveryone Sat 04-Apr-20 11:03:38

She was the nicest flatmate I’d had in a long time. After getting rid of the skunk smoking one she was a breath of fresh air although I hated her Yankee candle addiction.

HarrietTheShy Sat 04-Apr-20 11:03:51

Is there a deposit? She has to give you reasonable notice to leave.

ChateauMargaux Sat 04-Apr-20 11:04:34

She needs to carry on paying you rent. Speak to her. If she has a contract she needs to stick to the terms of the contract and if she thinks she wants to come back in a few weeks she absolutely has to carry on paying.

EachandEveryone Sat 04-Apr-20 11:06:17

The bottom line is the rent comes out of my wages every month and that won’t change. I would rather the landlord put a new bed in there and did it up abit because I think it will be a struggle to find someone

It’s the rest of the bills that will finish me, and I know I’m in a better position than a lot of people. .

CommunistLegoBloc Sat 04-Apr-20 11:07:42

You say this subletting suits everyone but I have lost count of the number of posts you write about your terrible flatmates! Perhaps it's time to do it properly? But for now, inform the landlord.

YetAnotherBeckyMumsnet (MNHQ) Sat 04-Apr-20 11:09:16

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EachandEveryone Sat 04-Apr-20 11:12:47

Sorry, what is this? I’ve been here years go look at me on the litter tray or the telly pages! I’ve emphatically stated I’m good for the rent it’s just a bummer about the other bills. Jeez I’m not asking for hand outs 😯😯😯shock

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