Hi
I am struggling to implement some basic boundaries with a coworker. I know how I feel but feel guilty and horrible doing what I feel is best.
I work in a small office, mainly with women. I love my job and get on well with everyone. One woman is an oversharer and tells us far too much personal information. This gets us all down but lately it has really bothered me. I can't get my work done and it's making me feel very uncomfortable.
I have had one issue with her before as she has my telephone number. She called me at home and I could not get her off the phone for over 2 hours. I did set a boundary then and told her I would rather she did not call me at home.
She is having a hard time in her personal life at the moment (she is always having a hard time)and talks about this at work constantly. I have been trying to ignore these chats at let my colleagues deal with her. Last week, whilst at home, I got a message from her late at night asking why I wasn't talking to her at work, had she upset me etc. I messaged back telling her I was busy at work and that I did not want to get in trouble for talking too much. She confronted me again the next day at work and I repeated the same thing. She has just had some bad news to do with her Mum who sadly passed away. She told us all and I expressed my condolences to her. Last night I got another message from her which read "I hope you are not put off contacting me because my Mum has died. I would love to hear from you and don't want you to not contact me". I am not sure what that's all about really. I am not friends with her and don't want to be to be honest. I feel like she is pushing me to enter into a relationship that's more than I want and this is making me very anxious. I do struggle putting in boundaries with people and I feel terrible and mean and a bad, miserable person for not going along with her. The honest thing is that I don't like her that much. She is very needy and emotionally draining and I just don't have the strength or inclination for this at the moment. There are also some suggestions (from her) that she maybe drinking more than is good for her and I don't want to be caught up in this. How do I approach this please?
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Movinbaby · 16/04/2021 10:26
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