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annoyed with constant questions from colleagues

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lost2016 · 27/05/2016 15:33

Grrrrrrrrrrr I am so annoyed, I have been back to work since Monday and I am getting sick of the endless questions about who has my daughter whilst I work but today I had just about had enough and was thinking the next person who asks.......well.
I know they say people are only showing an interest but that is an excuse that nosey people use.......I mean common sense would tell you that my child is with family/ daddy/ friends or childcare of some form. I feel like turning round and saying I have left her home alone hanging upside down from the ceiling, it is just getting too much when it feels like every other person is asking me.
I spoke to one of the girls at work and even she straight out said 'duh, use your common sense'
Ok so I start at 5:30am so there aren't any childcare providers about at that time but there is family/ friends/ daddy. I feel like sometimes saying and 'who has/had your kids while you work?'
The thing is there is showing an interest and the is being fing nosey, I would never dream of asking people who had their kids whilst they work - I would use my brain and realise that they are with family/ friend/ daddy etc
It's the fact people ask questions or sorry interrogate you to get information out of you, I find them very invasive and I hate being questioned about anything, I feel like a child who still lives with her mummy, the way I see it people should be free to tell other what they want without feeling like they are at the police station.
I normally just stand there and say I have sorted but thank you - just in case they say they didn't ask that - I can then say 'oh sorry, I thought you were asking as you know of someone who does childminding on the cheap' or something to that effect.
Has anyone else been through this, how did you deal with it, or did you not mind the

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intheairthatnightfernando · 29/05/2016 08:09

You have a very odd attitude to this and it sounds like you have something to conceal, although goodness knows what.
This sounds like a scenario that would totally perplex most people - where antagonism could spring from a totally neutral question/remark.

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MargotLovedTom · 29/05/2016 08:17

Agree, you sound a bit snippy. All you need to answer is "She's with her dad/grandparents," and that's it. Do a Hmm face if it makes you feel better but, you know, you've only been back a few days, I'm sure no one will be asking next week.

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avocadosweet · 29/05/2016 08:40

I think i know every colleague's childcare arrangements! There is always someone who is on leave because the childminder is ill, or had a call from nursery saying the child is ill. Then there's arranging childcare vouchers, and moaning about the cost of childcare. i don't find it at all intrusive for them to know where my children are, and I'd consider myself a private person. I think it's supportive of people to ask, as we're all in the same boat.

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NerrSnerr · 29/05/2016 08:58

It's just polite conversation. I returned after mat leave in September and people asked me, it didn't feel like an interrogation though. Glad I don't work with you with your sarky responses.

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ArgyMargy · 29/05/2016 09:03

Jeez, relax! They may be impressed that you've found childcare at 5.30am! More likely it's just small talk. If you can't answer nicely don't be surprised if people leave you alone in future - or maybe that's what you'd prefer Hmm

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seven201 · 29/05/2016 09:03

It's just small talk. I really wouldn't be bothered if I was asked this a lot.

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Fairuza · 29/05/2016 09:17

Gosh, that's such a bland question I'm amazed anyone finds it offensive! People at work ask how old my kids are, who looks after them etc all the time. It's in the same category as 'are you off on holiday this year?' and 'doing anything nice at the weekend?'.

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squidgyapple · 29/05/2016 16:42

It's what people ask - my DCs are secondary school age and if it's half term or whatever I'll be asked who is looking after them. It's a bit dull but it isn't personal.

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