We had a department meeting on Tuesday. Our line manager spoke for about 5 minutes then asked if there was anything else. Recently a long standing member of our team lost her mum very suddenly. A few of us have individually sent condolences, but as yet there has been no contact from the school itself. It is commonplace that, in these circumstances (or other major life event e.g. birth of child), the line manager would organise flowers and a card. Our school has undergone a period of change recently and it was assumed,(by myself and other colleagues),
that in the business of the period, the condolence message from school had been overlooked.
Somehow I have become the unofficial spokesperson for our team, probably because I'm used to speaking in meetings. I was asked by others in my dept to ask about the condolences for our colleague.
When the line manager asked of there was anything else, I raised my hand then asked "We were just wondering about the condolences for x?" Line manager said "I know nothing about it." I said, ok no worries , would you like us to put a card etc together?" Line manager said "i just said i know nothing about it, I've only been here a year." I apologised and explained it's usually organised via line managers. She then put her hand up to silence me and shouted "we dont need this. You go off talking about things, people get angry. I don't need it."
She then walked out. My remaining colleagues were all pretty shocked and one joked,"Well, you got told!" Others made comments about her reaction being over the top. She didn't speak to me for the rest of the day.
I don't work on Wednesday or Thursday. When I got home I asked my husband about it. He is a line manager in a different industry and thinks she was defensive, because she knew she should've arranged something, but didn't and was embarrassed I brought it up. I know she will probably come to see me and say I was out of order. But I felt the way she shouted was very humiliating and disproportionate. I want to be able to express this but I'm not sure how. I don't want to make the situation worse but I do feel it was unfair. Dh said i should "tell her straight" but she is quite an emotional person and cried the last time one of our team disagreed with her.
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Playthegameout · 14/01/2016 09:14
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