I think that the feminism that she rejected was of a very specific nature and her comments were of their time.
She recognised that women were disadvantaged and indeed in her quote about not anticipating a woman PM being appointed in her lifetime, she goes on to state that it?s because men are too prejudiced. She recognised that strong women were the backbone of society hence her comments 'If you want something said, ask a man. If you want something done, ask a woman?. She didn?t respect weak women, but she didn?t respect weak men either.
She comments over and over in her autobiographies about how politics was very much a man?s world and a middle/upper class, white one very much dominated by the old boy?s network. If I remember correctly she wasn?t allowed into one of the male only areas of the House of Commons at the time and it frustrated her as this was where the real discussions were being had over a glass of port and cigar. Her way around it was to ensure that her voice was heard so she had lessons in how not to be ?shrill?, how to use body language, dress, mannerisms etc.
She was an incredibly principled, hard working politician with a tremendous intellect and one who coped in a very isolated working world where she didn?t have to prove that she was worth any man; she had to prove that she was better in order to get any respect.
And it?s not just the public who are spouting sexist comments, many politicians, both domestic and abroad, refer to her by her looks, her sexiness, her mothering. There are references to her having ?the eyes of Caligula but the mouth of Marilyn Munroe?. WTF ?
Many of her colleagues refer to her seductive charisma, so obviously it wasn?t her wit or intellect that won them around, they were seduced by her because heaven forbid that they may have been swayed by the words of a woman. A lot of quotes from male politicians who were of that era simply couldn?t admit that she was as good as one of them and that they respected her as a politician ? her sex is referred to in almost every quote.
And no, I?ve never seen words as gendered or as emotive being used to describe male politicians as they are with Mrs Thatcher. Vile, evil, witch, bitch, murderer.
She was a hell of a woman if she single handedly changed the course of this country and international relations, for better or worse. Why is she held to a higher standard than anyone else ? Perhaps because she was a woman who didn?t know her place. And for that, and that alone, she?s a feminist icon for me.