The fact is that we need very few people at the top and a lot at the bottom.
e.g. A hospital needs a few managers, a few surgeons, a few consultants etc but they need a lot of nurses , they are vital- you can do the operations without them. We want good quality ones that are paid a reasonable salary, we want them to be in the job because it is what they really want to do, not because they can't do anything else. We want a lot of women as nurses, I can't see my elderly mother being happy bathed by man. We want experienced nurses who want to stay on the ward, not disappear into teaching, managerial jobs leaving just the inexperienced. We need hairdressers, car mechanics, etc. It is pointless sending everyone off for law degrees, they can't get jobs when they finish - there are too many of them. We don't want 50% at university.
Of course it is unfair that it is unequal - of course you would expect 50% at the top to be women. However very few are going to make it, even if male. It is sad that we have such a narrow view of success so that being a surgeon is a success and being a nurse isn't- when they need each other and we need both.
I am all for changing working practices but you have to understand that children change the life of a couple - if you only see them for quality time you miss out. I know many young women who discuss problems etc with the grandmother, and bypass the mother- because Granny was there when they were growing up and mother was not.
Normal career patterns are fine, most people juggle- you have to. Getting to the top is more than that- it takes dedication to the job.
It is quite understandable that many women prefer a balance.
I would say that women are their own worst enemies. They make themselves 'senior' parent from day1. Often, as a couple, they know nothing about babies and yet the mother becomes the 'expert' and either does it all or issues instructions. She won't just leave him to it, or go out between feeds and leave him alone. Needless to say they give up and let her get on with it and it become 'her' job. Later on him looking after his own children is 'babysitting'! I was able to go away for a week when mine were 1yrs and 2yrs- they waved me off at the airport- I didn't have to give any instructions DH was equal they were his DCs in his own home- he was used to looking after them.
As far as I can see women want girls because they are seen as more compliant and quieter and will grow up to be mother's best friend.
People complain about toys being for a gender and the whole pink, princess stuff- and yet it is mothers who buy it! Lego have doubled production of 'girls' Lego and can't keep up with demand. It wouldn't make business sense to stop. Obviously women are buying it in droves! I hadn't given it much thought until a friend's DD had a baby girl and then I went into a shop saying 'I have 3 boys, I want to get a really 'girly' present' - and yet when it came to it I couldn't bring myself to and got a lovely brown dog. I had never been exposed to it before and it as a shock!
We need to change working practices, women need to let the father be an equal parent, stop seeing girls as less trouble than boys.
We need to change our attitudes to success and have 'real' choice. Education should be for the excitement of learning- not always jumping through hoops for the end result. A career should be one to suit you, if you would love to be a librarian - then go for it - don't let someone tell you that you should want higher.
Boys seem to win out yet again because they have a free choice- they are not loaded with expectations of what they should do, or not to the same extent and they don't get the same sense of failure if they don't get there- or step off the treadmill.
I would say that the real worry is that our young people can jump through all the right hoops, go to top universities get a good degree and can't get a job in the field they want, never mind one with a future. Maybe with younger children you don't realise that our shops, bars, cafes etc are staffed by graduates who can't find anything else.
(I'm sure that everyone would love a job that makes a difference and stops at 3pm- I think teaching does that but it doesn't stop at 3pm)
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