I have been doing pole fitness for about three years now and I love it. There is nothing sleazy or wrong with it, I do it as a serious work out, not for tilitation and it is no different to doing the parallel bars say at gymnastics.
It is what you make it. I cannot stand it being referred to as pole dancing - that is not what I do....there is no dancing involved, I do it purely for strength, fitness and fun.
If you look at how the real polers perform, some of them are absolutely amazing.
I cannot imagine how it can be harmful, say anymore than gymnastics. My body has never been on better shape.
I heard about the poor girl who had the accident and broke her neck but really, this could happen crossing the road or playing football/rugby etc. Pole is classed as an extreme sport so we take all the precautions we can but yes, of course accidents can happen.
I have a pole in my house, I use it safely and properly...believe me, there is nothing demeaning about it and shock/horror my DS loves climbing on it and spinning round it.