How can we NOT need a Lawrence-style enquiry after yet another story like this?

[sethstarkaddersmummyreturns]

mother's warnings ignored by police over 100 times

How can this not be an indicator of systemic sexism similar to the systemic racism the Lawrence enquiry identified?

When I saw the 'epic fail' thread I was tempted to link to the awful story about the nurse murdered by her ambulance driver boyfriend when he was out on bail for her rape, because it seemed to me that that was what really constituted an 'epic fail'.
Well, here's another 'epic fail'.

After quite so many epic fails surely we are due an enquiry?

[EldritchCleavage]

Sorry, I meant to say Stephen had parents who were married, not that he was married.

[sethstarkaddersmum]

I think that's a very interesting post EldritchCleavage.

Thumbwheel - I don't know the details of this case but in a lot of cases the dad has access rights and if the child doesn't go the mum gets into trouble. Maybe that was what was going on here?

[ElephantsAndMiasmas]

Yes - see the other thread where the foreign national mother is banned from removing her children from the abusive father's house overnight for an extreme example.

Great post btw Eldritch - that was my feeling at the conference, it's not the time. But there will never be a poster child for VAW victims - there has been every possible permutation of daughters/wives/random acquantances killed in this country. None of them move people. It's the norm for men to kill and attack women and the norm for the police to treat the victims with contempt.

The more I learn about the police the more scared I am of them TBH. My mum told me at an early age never to marry a man in uniform - starting to think that is sterling advice.

[EldritchCleavage]

I always remember Roland. Very few people do, it's a forgotten crime. Even when Stephen Lawrence died, no one really referred to the earlier case.

There are parallels with the fight against racism, including the feeling that nothing is changing and nothing will change. That's not actually true, it's just that the pace of change is so glacially slow we can't see it happening except at the distance of many years.

When I feel like that I talk to my parents, because they do have that longer term perspective. My father once reminded me that once upon a time people genuinely argued that women (and black people) did not have souls. That is thankfully unimaginable today, where once it was entirely natural. I just hold on to the hope that to my granddaughters, the current attitudes to violence against women will seem almost equally repellent.