My DH met when I was ‘plump’ - about 2 stones overweight.
I’ve never been thin but I gradually piled on the pounds hitting 18 stones a few years ago and levelling off around 16 stones for the last 5 years. I gained more over this Xmas and have taken myself in hand and committed to losing weight once and for all. I hope to stick at it but I’m conscious that I am only ever dealing with things one day at a time as I have a history of failed diets.
However in all this time (20 years) DH has never said anything. Ive asked for support but he’s not interested. It’s unconditional love he said. He doesn’t do anything to make things worse like buy me chocolate or cook unhealthy food he just doesn’t seem to register. Fine but being so over weight is unhealthy for me. I’m obese.
He’s skinny, and eats to live. I live to eat and it shows.
I would love him to be supportive. I’m not sure what I actually want him to do? Notice I think would be the first thing.
I am not in any way blaming him for my weight gain as I’ve never been thin but maybe if he’d noticed a few stones back and said something I could have put the breaks on? Or if he said ‘lose 2 stones and this could happen or I will treat you to that’
I think that’s why I started my Thin by Christmas thread, I was feeling very lonely and unsupported with my weight/food issues.
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glitterbiscuits · 19/03/2018 10:29
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