Tell me about your wedding!

ByeByeButterfly · 07/02/2015 20:37

I'll answer the ones I already can as well :)

What time of the year did you have your wedding?
I'm having it in August.
What type of flowers did you have?
I'm planning to have something like Freesias and Sweetpeas any ideas are great.
What did you do for your hen/stag do's?
No I'd yet - thinking a nice meal and a few drinks.
What was your cake like?
It's going to be hopefully a 2 tier cake with flowers on in a lilac colour.
What was your colour theme or general theme of wedding?
Ivory (wedding dress colour) and various shades of purple.
How many people attended?
No final numbers yet but looking like it will be around 75.
How many bridesmaids/best men/flower girls etc did you have?
Maid of honour my sister, 3 bridesmaids, 2 flower girls and a best man. It may sound a lot but what can I say, we have a lot of special people in our lives.
What type of venue did you have your wedding at (church, hotel, barn etc)?
Hotel.
What form of entertainment did you have if any?
Disco in the evening - hopefully we can get a bouncy castle for the kids from about 4-6pm ish whilst photos are being done (not that photos will take that long - I hope!).
What did you do about food/drink - buffet, 3 course meal, free bar, 1 bottle of wine per guest etc)?
3 course meal at 5.30 and nibbles at 8.00pm ish. 3 glasses of wine per person and a bar that is not free.
Where did you go on your honeymoon and how long for?
No idea yet - ideas solely welcome!
Were children invited to your wedding?
Yep - youngest will be about 3 months old and the oldest 'child' will be around 14. Around about 12 children going.
Were you a bit of a bridezilla or was there any drama coming up to your wedding (don't tell me what it is don't worry, just curious)?
Not so far but still got 5 months to go. I think I'm doing OK because I honestly want it to be great for everyone else, not specifically me which grounds you a bit.
What was the best thing about your wedding day other than of course marrying the person that you love?
N/A
What do you think makes a good/bad wedding?

Good wedding:

Plenty of food and drink
Something to entertain the guests
Photos only taking about 30 minutes in all
Either the same venue or a venue within walking distance for the reception
Pay or your bridesmaids dresses (though if they want a specific accessory, I think letting them pay for that is fine)
Remembering the day isn't completely all about you.
Instructions on how to get to the venue in invite

Bad wedding:

Long, crude speeches
Corny poems in invites
Bridezillas
Having to fork out a lot for going to the wedding (in my eyes anything more than £100 including the wedding gift is too much unless you're the brides/grooms parents/sibling etc)
Places with no/limited parking

I think that's mostly it.

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LikeSilver · 07/02/2015 20:39

Autumn
Fake ones; I wasn't bothered enough to spend loads.
Me - movie, curry and drinks with close friends. DH - go karting and night out (locally).
We had a Krispy Kreme tower and had it, and sausage baps, as an evening buffet.
No theme/colours - again too lazy to be bothered!
60. Another 20 or so in the evening.
2 bridesmaids, 1 best man, 1 flower girl, 1 pageboy and 4 ushers.
City hotel but we had our meal at our favourite restaurant (we hired a vintage bus for transport).
Indie DJ.

10. We had cocktails after the ceremony, a three course meal at our favourite restaurant, and then sausage baps/Krispy Kreme instead of an evening buffet.
11. Immediately after the wedding we went glamping in Yorkshire for a couple of days; six months after the wedding we had a week in Vegas.
12. Yes.
13. I hope I wasnt a bridezilla! No drama that I can remember.
14. I loved wearing my dress.
15. I think a good wedding reflects the couple. Good food is important too.

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CPtart · 07/02/2015 20:44

September. 4 days before 9/11. A Friday.
Mixed posy of pink and cream roses.
Hen do in Leeds. Stag do in Alicante.
Three tiered, circular, fruit and sponge ,with silver icing/ topped matching flowers.
5)Pale pink and grey. No theme.
About 50, day and night same people. No add ons turning up later.
None. My two best friends read in church and was a witness.
Church I had been baptised in, grown up with etc. Priest had known me since I was ten.
Just music played in the late bar. No band. No first dance.
Sit down meal. Champagne for the top table. Nibbles later.
10 days in the Maldives. What we saved on the wedding we spent on the honeymoon and my engagement ring!
No children.
No drama but a bit emotional as my DF had dies two years earlier so wasn't around to give me away. My DM did that, and my grandad did a speech.
After 10 years together we were just so ready. It made us complete.
Quality not quantity.

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esiotrot2015 · 07/02/2015 20:44

Autumn
Can't remember
Meal out/ dh went to a theme park
2 tier
cream and lilac
20 to ceremony and meal, 75 to evening do
one bridesmaid, 2 best men
regisry office, posh hotel, semi posh hotel for reception
DJ

10. 3 course meal for 20 straight after ceremony, buffet in evening ofr 75
11. Verona, a week
12. Yes
13. nope
14. all close family and friends were there
15, not too long between eating, drinking, not having it in the middle of nowhere with very expensive transport

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MrsMinton · 07/02/2015 20:50

Winter.
Cala lilies
All went out to a rock club together. Hens and stags.
4)Three tier stacked. White icing with tiny silver stars on. My cake topper was a China figure that I still have.
Silver and purple. I had a purple dress and black velvet cloak and my bridesmaids wore soft silver colour.
90 at the service and another 30 in the evening.
three bridesmaids, one best man. Brothers gave me away.
A country house with dark wood staircase to walk down and preraphelite type murals on the walls.
we had a friend DJ.
Hot buffet lunch. Cold buffet tea. Paid for a toast. We hired a community centre so the buffet was catered externally for lunch and by my moms dinner lady friends for tea.
Barmouth. It was cold!!
12)Yes.
not at all. It was all arranged and sorted in two weeks. I then just had dress fittings to do.
We were surrounded by our friends and had a fun relaxed day. My favourite part was the drive after with champagne just cuddling up and grinning!!
Its such a personal thing that you should just make it yours and not get dragged into worrying about the drama.

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DandyMott · 07/02/2015 21:01

What time of the year did you have your wedding?
Mid November, glorious sunny day!
What type of flowers did you have?
Cream and orange gerberas
What did you do for your hen/stag do's?
Meal with friends and colleagues
What was your cake like?
White chocolate cigarillos all the way around and sugar paste gerberas in my colours filling the top.
What was your colour theme or general theme of wedding?
Navy blue with cream and orange hints
How many people attended?
Just under 25
How many bridesmaids/best men/flower girls etc did you have?
Big sister as bridesmaid, 2 nieces as flower girls.
What type of venue did you have your wedding at (church, hotel, barn etc)?
Ceremony was registry office, after a hotel restaurant (no night do, got married just after 10am, everything was done with by 5pm then we went to the pub with some friends)
What form of entertainment did you have if any?
Magician walked round while we did photos until lunch.
What did you do about food/drink - buffet, 3 course meal, free bar, 1 bottle of wine per guest etc)?
3 course meal, free bar, drinks on arrival
Where did you go on your honeymoon and how long for?
Lanzarote for about 10-11 days
Were children invited to your wedding?
Yep.
Were you a bit of a bridezilla or was there any drama coming up to your wedding (don't tell me what it is don't worry, just curious)?
Nope.
What was the best thing about your wedding day other than of course marrying the person that you love?
The whole atmosphere, it was small intimate and perfect for us.
What do you think makes a good/bad wedding?
Long periods of waiting = bad
Good food/company = good

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MrsGSR · 07/02/2015 21:23

August, lovely and sunny until a thunderstorm in the evening! If DH hadn't had to go outside to smoke I wouldn't have known though.
Blue and white roses
Just a night out with some good friends in fancy dress with an Army theme as I married a soldier.
3 tier, square. Each tier twisted slightly with roses on the top.
Royal and Baby blue and lots of white!
130ish to the meal, then another 75-100 for the evening.
DH had two best men and two ushers, I had two flower girls (although one was quite young and didn't walk down the aisle) and my sister as a bridesmaid. I had 2 good friends as our witnesses and 2 others did a reading and prayer.
Wedding was at a Church, meal at a pub/restaurant nearby then evening party at a town hall type place.
Karaoke. Not everyone's cup of tea but our families, especially DHs, love it.
Two course meal for lunch, then buffet at the evening.
A week, to a spa hotel about 3 hours away as we were moving to Germany a few weeks later, so didn't want to travel far.
Yes, loads of kids :)
My sister had her appendix out a week before, which was pretty stressful! My mum had cancer and dad was caring for her, so I stayed with my sister in hospital. I don't think I was a bridezilla, I did everything myself (cake, stationery, centrepieces) and only really cared about being legally married and celebrating with the people I love. I didn't want a perfect day, but that's what it ended up being :)
Being with all our families. We are both very family oriented and it was great to be surrounded by them all
I think if you obsess over the little details you can miss out on enjoying the day. So relax and drink in every second as it flies by!

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anothercantthinkofanothername · 07/02/2015 21:44

I'm getting married in August and just being a bit nosy!

Answer as few/as many of these questions you feel comfortable with as I'm aware some might worry about being outed.

What time of the year did you have your wedding?
Early July
What type of flowers did you have?
Sweet peas and whatever flowers my mum's friends were growing at the time
What did you do for your hen/stag do's?
DH- Barcelona. Me - small do in Paris, larger one in London ( where we live)
What was your cake like?
Chocolate torte- 3 tiers. Doubled as pudding.
What was your colour theme or general theme of wedding?
Wasn't a colour. General country wedding type thing.( not deliberate)
How many people attended?
About 120- for the whole thing. No
one came just for the evening etc
How many bridesmaids/best men/flower girls etc did you have?
2 'big, bridesmaids, 2 small. 1 best man. Few ushers
What type of venue did you have your wedding at (church, hotel, barn etc)?
Church then marquee in garden
What form of entertainment did you have if any?
Barn dance and dJ
What did you do about food/drink - buffet, 3 course meal, free bar, 1 bottle of wine per guest etc)?
V nice buffet and champagne, wine and beer- all 'free'. Bought it cheaply ourselves in France
Where did you go on your honeymoon and how long for?
Indonesia- 2 weeks
Were children invited to your wedding? Only a few family ones
Were you a bit of a bridezilla or was there any drama coming up to your wedding (don't tell me what it is don't worry, just curious)?
Wasn't a brideszilla. Few fairly minor ( unexpected) dramas.
What was the best thing about your wedding day other than of course marrying the person that you love? A good party and being the centre of attention ( which I thought is HATE).
What do you think makes a good/bad wedding?
Good food and drink. No hanging around for hours between venues not knowing where the hell you're meant to go etc whilst waiting for the photos to be taken etc. No need to spend lots on favours, colour schemes etc etc. which no one will remember.

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ZombieJenna · 07/02/2015 22:20

Getting married in June but can add what we're planning

What time of the year did you have your wedding?
Summer
What type of flowers did you have?
Ribbon flowers in dark and mid-red, gold and ivory - my mum is making them for my bouquet, my bridesmaid's hair comb & the buttonholes/corsages.
What did you do for your hen/stag do's?
Not planning on one (and DP doesn't want a stag do as far as I know). We'll probably get a takeaway & watch bad tv.
What was your cake like?
My aunt is making my cake as our wedding present - 3 tiers, red velvet cake, lemon cake and vanilla cake to go with the colour scheme, ivory icing with some sort of flowers or buttons cascading down the side (possibly)
What was your colour theme or general theme of wedding?
Colour theme is supposed to be claret red, gold and ivory, although there is some purple now working its way in. Wedding dress is medieval style as is bridesmaid's dress, DP is wearing a kilt.
How many people attended?
N/K - we're inviting about 50
How many bridesmaids/best men/flower girls etc did you have?
1 bridesmaid (DSD) and 1 best man
What type of venue did you have your wedding at (church, hotel, barn etc)?
Local registry office, which happens to be a gorgeous, old fashioned building.
What form of entertainment did you have if any?
An iPod and speakers if we're lucky
What did you do about food/drink - buffet, 3 course meal, free bar, 1 bottle of wine per guest etc)?
We're planning on nibbles and a drink on arrival and then a 3 course carvery meal with wine/soft drinks. Evening do will be drinks at our local.
Where did you go on your honeymoon and how long for?
N/A - we want to go to Scotland.
Were children invited to your wedding?
Yes - bridesmaid will still technically be a child (15 going on 30!) so it'd be a bit mean not to invite other people's kids.
Were you a bit of a bridezilla or was there any drama coming up to your wedding (don't tell me what it is don't worry, just curious)?
I hope I'm not being a bridezilla but I do have 4 months to work up to it
What was the best thing about your wedding day other than of course marrying the person that you love?
N/A
What do you think makes a good/bad wedding?
I have no idea - apart from my aunt's wedding a couple of years ago I haven't been to one since I was a kid.

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ByeByeButterfly · 08/02/2015 13:08

Thanks so far for sharing :)

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OllyBJolly · 08/02/2015 13:27

What time of the year did you have your wedding?
October
What type of flowers did you have?
White roses and lilies with deep blue delphiniums
What did you do for your hen/stag do's?
Didn't bother
What was your cake like?
Very simple but had special cake topper
What was your colour theme or general theme of wedding?
Sapphire blue
How many people attended?
40
How many bridesmaids/best men/flower girls etc did you have?
one of each
What type of venue did you have your wedding at (church, hotel, barn etc)?
ceremony and reception on the beach
What form of entertainment did you have if any?
CD player
What did you do about food/drink - buffet, 3 course meal, free bar, 1 bottle of wine per guest etc)?
3 course hot buffet, free bar with cocktails
Where did you go on your honeymoon and how long for?
West Highlands for a week
Were children invited to your wedding?
Yes
Were you a bit of a bridezilla or was there any drama coming up to your wedding (don't tell me what it is don't worry, just curious)?
No drama and quite relaxed. The only think I worried about was running out of drink as we supplied that ourselves and neither of us had much of a clue as to what and how much to get. As it happened, the malt whisky ran out early on (eh? who likes whisky?!) but niece was despatched to buy a few more bottles so no drama.
What was the best thing about your wedding day other than of course marrying the person that you love?
Having the family together (and it not being a funeral! Our usual gatherings these days )
What do you think makes a good/bad wedding?
Everyone has a fun time
Good food and drink
Consider guests' comfort
Make sure you enjoy the day - don't get caught up in the unimportant.

Maybe not relevant but I'm so glad that I had a good photographer, and also absolutely treasure the photos some guests took. Don't think I'll ever tire of looking at them.

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GlowWine · 08/02/2015 13:55

What time of the year did you have your wedding?
Mid-october (the first available sat at registry office once we had decided)
What type of flowers did you have?
Bouquet for me, buttonholes for groom and witness. Agapanthus and lisianthus I think, purple/lilac to match my dress.
What did you do for your hen/stag do's?
Neither
What was your cake like?
I made a two-tier simple chocolate cake with white choc ganache and decorated with haribo-type heart sweets.
What was your colour theme or general theme of wedding?
n/a
How many people attended?
Ceremony and meal: 12 including children plus a couple of friends who did not attend lunch. Evening about 40
How many bridesmaids/best men/flower girls etc did you have?
2 witnesses
What type of venue did you have your wedding at (church, hotel, barn etc)?
Registry office - restaurant private room - our home
What form of entertainment .. None
What did you do about food/drink - buffet, 3 course meal, free bar, 1 bottle of wine per guest etc)?
3 course meal in restaurant for 12, cake and champagne reception for 40
Where did you go on your honeymoon and how long for? 1 week malta, several months later
Were children invited to your wedding? Yes
Were you a bit of a bridezilla or was there any drama coming up to your wedding (don't tell me what it is don't worry, just curious)?
Ha ha nope
What was the best thing about your wedding day other than of course marrying the person that you love?
Relaxed, time for everyone, no stress, no expectations, a day we will cherish
What do you think makes a good/bad wedding? It's not a performance. Be yourself.

Good much with your planning! I did ours in 6 weeks, and no, i was not pregnant!

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ByeByeButterfly · 08/02/2015 19:09

Some lovely weddings.

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ArtyFartyQueen · 08/02/2015 21:46

What a lovely thread ByeByeButterfly..I'm also getting married in August, so it's been lovely looking at all the answers!

Here's mine....so far!

What time of the year did you have your wedding?
August - hoping for sunshine!
What type of flowers did you have?
Mainly Gypsophila, with some cream roses and hydrangeas. The buttonholes for the men are going to include a little lego figurine!
What did you do for your hen/stag do's?
DP wants to do bubble football and then a curry/drinks with maybe a trip to the brewery with his work mates and I'm going away for a couple of nights with close friends to a spa etc and then having a big night out with lots of friends...thinking of just booking a room in a pub for that one!
What was your cake like?
We're having a cake a little bit like this... betweenthepagesblog.typepad.com/.a/6a0120a5924ef0970b01b7c6e34d42970b-pi but with a lego tier as well and leaves instead of flowers on the other side! Different flavours - chocolate for the kids, carrot cake, lemon and poppy cake or red velvet and Victoria sponge.
What was your colour theme or general theme of wedding?
Bridesmaids are wearing Navy and turquoise or teal dresses and groomsmen will be wearing navy suits with teal or turquoise tie
How many people attended?
Approx 150 for the day and another 50 in the evening, so 200 in total
How many bridesmaids/best men/flower girls etc did you have?
Quite a few.....! 2 maid of honours, 1 chief bridesmaid (my dd), 5 bridesmaids (including three nieces), 2 flower girls, 2 page boys, 2 best men and 2 ushers. Only one bride and groom though!
What type of venue did you have your wedding at (church, hotel, barn etc)? Getting married in my childhood church and then having the reception in a barn 15 minutes away with camping at the venue or staying nearby.
What form of entertainment did you have if any?
Lots of music as that's my job, outdoor games, treasure hunts, Photo Booth, and hopefully a Punch and Judy show for the kids!
What did you do about food/drink - buffet, 3 course meal, free bar, 1 bottle of wine per guest etc)?
Canapes at reception, Hog roast with bread, loads of salads with an ice-cream van for dessert. For the evening, we're serving the wedding cake with raspberries, strawberries and cream alongside some cheese, crackers, pork pies etc
Where did you go on your honeymoon and how long for?
Mini-moon to wales or somewhere for three days after the wedding and then a holiday to Mexico with the kids in November
Were children invited to your wedding?
Definitely....they make up a quarter of the wedding guests!
Were you a bit of a bridezilla or was there any drama coming up to your wedding (don't tell me what it is don't worry, just curious)?
I hope not, but you'd have to ask my friends about that! No real drama has occurred, we're trying to keep it as simple as possible but still encompass everything we want on a budget!
What was the best thing about your wedding day other than of course marrying the person that you love?
Like I say to DP, this is probably the first and last time that we will get to enjoy seeing ALL our friends and family under the same roof!
What do you think makes a good/bad wedding?
Not loads of waiting around, a good table plan - making sure that you have thought about the people sitting around together and help them make connections and feel welcome! Lots of fun for the kids, happy kids, means stress free parents which is a good combination for the wedding. Lots of food and drink and good music!

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pasbeaucoupdegendarme · 08/02/2015 21:59

What time of the year did you have your wedding?

August
What type of flowers did you have?

"Country"
What did you do for your hen/stag do's?

Hen do in Bath, Stag in Scotland "doing" distilleries.
What was your cake like?

Three tiers, pretty flower decoration on top.
What was your colour theme or general theme of wedding?

Colour was sort of turquoisy green. It wasn't a strident "theme" though.
How many people attended?

About 100.
How many bridesmaids/best men/flower girls etc did you have?

2 young bridesmaids (about 7 and 10) and 1 grown up, 1 best man.
What type of venue did you have your wedding at (church, hotel, barn etc)?

Country church at home, marquee afterwards.
What form of entertainment did you have if any?

Ceilidh (DH is a Scot :) )
What did you do about food/drink - buffet, 3 course meal, free bar, 1 bottle of wine per guest etc)?

We weren't licensed so free "bar". Much champagne brought by DFather from Calais!
Food started with a kind of "sharing platter", then more traditional main course and amazing chocolate moussey cake thing for pud.
Where did you go on your honeymoon and how long for?

To the Lake District for a fortnight.
Were children invited to your wedding?

Hell yeah! We had a whole table for them, sarnies (made by me on the morning of the wedding) and crisps/carrot sticks/cucumber etc etc instead of the main lunch, and bottles of bubbles instead of favours. Apparently the bubbles were poured like sauce over the sandwiches, but I didn't know about that at the time!!
Were you a bit of a bridezilla or was there any drama coming up to your wedding (don't tell me what it is don't worry, just curious)?

I don't think I was too bridezillaish.... although others may say differently. There were a few dramas.... last minute nerves...
What was the best thing about your wedding day other than of course marrying the person that you love?

Having all the people we loved around us. It pissed it down, but all I remember thinking was that everyone I wanted to be there was all safe and dry in one place.
We had the most wonderful service, taken by the priest who'd been our priest at uni, with a load of music that we love and a (top notch!) choir made up of family and friends. It was everything we wanted.
What do you think makes a good/bad wedding?

Good wedding - we went out of our way to make sure that it was a good time, and worked easily for our guests. People still say it was the best wedding they ever went to, and it was six years ago now :)

I think a sensible time helps - 1.00 wedding is hopeless as people have no time for lunch! Keeping things slick once it gets going is important too. Dare I say "convenient time of year"??! We had two "Christmas" weddings to get to this year and it was a bit of a nightmare.

A ceremony that reflects the couple.

Bad wedding - inconvenient location for no good reason!! I've no problem travelling to the end of the world if it's the bride's home or something, but "just because" is irritating!
Not inviting children.... although I know that's a thorny subject.
Middle of the day and then hanging around for aaaaages whilst B&G have photos galore and not eating til about midnight.
Not providing soft drinks! I recently attended a wedding whilst(obviously!) pg and was made to feel really awkward for not wanting to drink champagne during the four hours between arriving at the reception and eating. Then if I wanted anything other than tap water, I had to pay for it, whereas the wine was free .
Music that is so loud and overwhelming that no-one can hear themselves think, especially if there is no "quieter room" where older relatives/those who don't dance can retreat to.

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eckythumpenallthat · 08/02/2015 22:12

1) What time of the year did you have your wedding?
February

2) What type of flowers did you have?
Husband had a Scottish thistle as his button hole. I had a bouquet of a white rose I can't remember the name of and Picasso Lilly's and some other purple flower I don't know the name of

3) What did you do for your hen/stag do's?
DH didn't want one. I went for a quiet meal with close family as I wasn't overly bothered either

4) What was your cake like?
DH went and designed it. Bottom layer was fruit, middle was lemon with lemon curd then we had a small vase filled with cream rose petals between layer 2 and 3 and top tier was banana. All iced in white, with purple ribbon at the bottom of each base with some beading. Simple but as long as it tasted nice I wasn't too fussed

5) What was your colour theme or general theme of wedding?
Theme was wedding day. Colour scheme was purple

6) How many people attended?
About 60 in the day and 100 in the evening

7) How many bridesmaids/best men/flower girls etc did you have?
2 bridesmaids, 1 best man

8) What type of venue did you have your wedding at (church, hotel, barn etc)?
Was at a hotel that had a converted barn at the back. We had the barn

9) What form of entertainment did you have if any?
Really cool local rock/classic rock covers band and a crap DJ

10) What did you do about food/drink - buffet, 3 course meal, free bar, 1 bottle of wine per guest etc)?
As it was winter it was a winter wedding package and all food was included. Warm winter Pimms cocktail after the service. Then 3 course wedding breakfast. Everyone got 2 glasses of wine. We had Spicy butternut squash soup, lamb shanks and chocolate orange cheesecake, champagne and chambord for the toasts. Sausage n bacon butties with potato wedges for the evening buffet

11) Where did you go on your honeymoon and how long for?
Cuba. 3 nights in havana and 11 in varadero

12) Were children invited to your wedding?
Of course! But not many of our family had kids so it was only 4

13) Were you a bit of a bridezilla or was there any drama coming up to your wedding (don't tell me what it is don't worry, just curious)?
Proper laid back

14) What was the best thing about your wedding day other than of course marrying the person that you love?
Seeing 18 months of planning come together, family traveling miles (from Australia) to be there. Oh and those sausage butties were AMAZING

15) What do you think makes a good/bad wedding?
A couple that love each other and family
The only thing I don't like about some weddings is the hanging around. We had ours at 1pm so it was quite quick flowing for guests and all under 1 roof

I'm not a researcher by the way, just a really nosy MNetter!

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Comingfoccacia · 08/02/2015 22:14

1: january
2: cream roses
3: no hen or stag
4: square fruit cake with gorgeous painted on decoration
5: no theme
6: about 50
7: one bridesmaid, best mate
8: city centre hotel for the lot
9: dj
10: sit down 3 course meal. Evening buffet
11: won free flights to Dubai so went there a year later once immigration issues were resolved
12: yes children would have been invited if any of the guests had had any!
13: as far from a bridezilla as possible! Organised it on my phone during my lunch breaks. Took about 8 weeks.
14: it was ok, nowt special. More for immigration reasons. Had 2 more dos, one in h's home country and another for those who couldn't make the main do
15: good weddings are chilled out and a bit haphazard and different, bad ones are when every boring ritual is observed

Good luck!

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flightywoman · 08/02/2015 22:36

What time of the year did you have your wedding?
Early October, it was warm and dry.
What type of flowers did you have?
Calla lillies.
What did you do for your hen/stag do's?
I had a party at my house, hired a beautician to do nails and facials, blagged shitloads of freebies from beauty counters, drank a LOT, made sausages and mash for everyone.
What was your cake like?
3-tier fruit, made by me.
What was your colour theme or general theme of wedding?
Loosely purple - flowers, but no theme.
How many people attended?
about 125
How many bridesmaids/best men/flower girls etc did you have?
1 bridesmaid, 1 maid of honour, 1 best man, 1 very small chief usher.
What type of venue did you have your wedding at (church, hotel, barn etc)?
A medieval merchant's hall. Beautiful, chock-full of 'wow' factor.
What form of entertainment did you have if any?
Music and dancing, friends did 30 minute sets.
What did you do about food/drink - buffet, 3 course meal, free bar, 1 bottle of wine per guest etc)?
Well, almost half my budget was the food. So, champagne and canapes during the photographs, then 2 courses, the mains had 4 choices - one hot, one cold, one veggie, one not, thai curry, veggie tart, whole ham, salads. 2 puddings.
We provided all the alcohol so I did a great deal with Laithwaites, we had a lot of wine - it was cheaper to do that for better wine and pay corkage than to order from the venue. Also had a barrel of beer, cider and soft drinks, there was no bar.
Where did you go on your honeymoon and how long for?
Southern Italy for a week. Hot but not blistering. Saw Pompeii.
Were children invited to your wedding?
Yes.
Were you a bit of a bridezilla or was there any drama coming up to your wedding (don't tell me what it is don't worry, just curious)?
Nope, not at all.
What was the best thing about your wedding day other than of course marrying the person that you love?
Lots of friends and family, memorable food and drink.
What do you think makes a good/bad wedding?
Good - nice food, decent booze, good tunes.
Bad - over-fussing about stupid details, getting up oneself, being dictatorial about absurd things. No-one will EVER say "that was a great wedding, the table decorations were lovely". They DO say "that was a great wedding, everyone looked so happy, the food was lovely and there was no stinting on the drinks."

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lickingstars · 08/02/2015 23:07

I have been married twice so I shall tell you about both as they were both very different.

1st marriage was in November
2nd time I got married in July.
1st - we had big pink lilys that spread orange pollen (everywhere)
2nd marriage - my DD from my 1st marriage picked some natural growing ones so it was mostly daisies
1st - I wasn't allowed a hen do but he had a weekend away with 6 friends.
2nd - I had a meal with close family and friends and DH went to the football with his dad and a few mates and I think they had a meal out as well.
1st - 3 square tiers of fruit cake with baby pink trimming and pink lilys to match my flowers (I hate fruit cake but my exmil made it and insisted it was traditional.
2nd- we had a 5 teir chocolate cake with loads of pieces of chocolate on top and DD decorated the top tier with pink heart and sprinkles.
1st - theme was traditional white wedding and colour scheme was pink , white and light purples.
2nd - no theme and we mostly used white and blue colours
1st - God knows I think it was about 100 for the service and well over 150 for the night do
2nd - 40 for the service including DCs and 60 for the night do.
1st - 8 adult bridesmaids 4 flower girls 6 adult best men and 5 little page boys
2nd - 1 bridesmaid and 1 flower girl (DD) and 1 best man and 1 page boy.
1st - a massive church an hour away from our hometown
2nd - the local country church
1st - we had a dj and we had a tribute band and a street dance group that ex was a part of.
2nd - we had a family member dj for us.
1st - we had a three course meal at a hotel with our wedding guests then we moved to another hotel for the night do with a free bar and buffet.
2nd - we had a buffet in a local pub as part of the night do.
1st - we spent the night in the same hotel we had the night do in which we classed as the honeymoon.
2nd - ILs very kindly helped pay for a two week trip to America with DD to disney world and new York.
1st - only to the night do unless they were taking part in the wedding.
2nd - yes
1st - no most of it was planned for me by my ex ils and ex dh. I pretty much just invited my family and turned up on the day.
2nd - no again but it was a pretty laid back wedding anyway
1st - the night do was amazing and actually it all looked very nice it just wasn't really me. The food was lovely as well.
2nd - just being there having the wedding I wanted with close family and friends and seeing DD so happy and excited.
- I would say a good wedding is more laid back with the people who are close to you which may not be as formally planned but aren't as stressful and don't put you in mountains of debt.

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Pixa · 08/02/2015 23:19

What time of the year did you have your wedding?
A Friday in September.
What type of flowers did you have?
Yellow Gerberas and white Roses.
What did you do for your hen/stag do's?
DH went to Nottingham to a comedy club, I went bowling.
What was your cake like?
Very unusual and would most definitely out me but it was my cake makers most successful cake of the year and was shared world wide.
What was your colour theme or general theme of wedding?
Yellow and grey with bird cages.
How many people attended?
8 guests (excluding us) during the day, 60 in the evening.
How many bridesmaids/best men/flower girls etc did you have?
1 bridemaid, 1 best man.
What type of venue did you have your wedding at (church, hotel, barn etc)?
Hotel, but outdoors.
What form of entertainment did you have if any?
Photobooth, Dj, Caricaturist, Mad-libs, photo scavenger hunt.
What did you do about food/drink - buffet, 3 course meal, free bar, 1 bottle of wine per guest etc)?
Buffet (Hot pork rolls, wedges, stuffing, apple sauce etc), free drink on arrival. Day time guests also got a three course meal and free wine and champagne.
Where did you go on your honeymoon and how long for?
Maldives, ten nights.
Were children invited to your wedding?
To the evening do. If there were any children within the immediate family they would have been invited to the day time.
Were you a bit of a bridezilla or was there any drama coming up to your wedding (don't tell me what it is don't worry, just curious)?
There was some drama.
What was the best thing about your wedding day other than of course marrying the person that you love?
It was just a lovely family day. Really intimate.
What do you think makes a good/bad wedding?
It has to be completely personal to the couple.

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Doilooklikeatourist · 08/02/2015 23:34

What time of the year did you have your wedding? June
What type of flowers did you have? pink full blown roses and stargazer lily hand tied bouquet for me , small version for bridesmaid and similar for church
What did you do for your hen/stag do's? out for dinner and drinks with friends
What was your cake like? a proper 3 tier fruit cake with white icing and sugar flowers
What was your colour theme or general theme of wedding? theme ? It's a wedding in 1993
How many people attended? about 60
How many bridesmaids/best men/flower girls etc did you have? 1 bridesmaid 1 best man
What type of venue did you have your wedding at (church, hotel, barn etc)? church
What form of entertainment did you have if any? na
What did you do about food/drink - buffet, 3 course meal, free bar, 1 bottle of wine per guest etc)? drinks in local pub whilst photos being done , then sit down 3 course with loads of wine , followed by a party
Where did you go on your honeymoon and how long for? Barbados , 2 weeks
Were children invited to your wedding? of course they were
Were you a bit of a bridezilla or was there any drama coming up to your wedding (don't tell me what it is don't worry, just curious)? not a bridezilla
What was the best thing about your wedding day other than of course marrying the person that you love? a joyful , happy day
What do you think makes a good/bad wedding? good wedding = happy guests , a relaxed atmosphere and sunshine .. bad wedding = over organised , not enough food / drink , waiting around too long

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ImCatbug · 08/02/2015 23:46

What time of the year did you have your wedding?
March! A lovely (if a bit chilly) spring day
What type of flowers did you have?
A few small flowers from the gardens of the house we were married at (they provided floral centerpieces), the rest were handmade paper flowers. We bought no fresh flowers at all.
What did you do for your hen/stag do's?
My hen do was dinner and drinks at a nice restaurant, his stag do was video games and pizza at a mate's house
What was your cake like?
Made by a friend of ours, it was a 3-tier white iced cake with icing leaves around it, the sponge inside was rainbow-coloured.
What was your colour theme or general theme of wedding?
No real theme, though we had some elements from our favourite books/movies around
How many people attended?
About 80
How many bridesmaids/best men/flower girls etc did you have?
5 bridesmaids (including my maid of honour), 2 flower girls, 5 groomsmen, one pageboy and the ring bearer
What type of venue did you have your wedding at (church, hotel, barn etc)?
Country house with grounds
What form of entertainment did you have if any?
DJ (friend of ours, not a typical 'wedding' DJ)
What did you do about food/drink - buffet, 3 course meal, free bar, 1 bottle of wine per guest etc)?
The house we were married in is also a restaurant, so part of the package was a sit-down 3 course meal with a 1/2 bottle of wine per guest on the table, drinks for toasts and then a cash bar
Where did you go on your honeymoon and how long for?
Paris! For a week.
Were children invited to your wedding?
Yes, though there were only 4 children there (not many young kids in the family/immediate friends) and they were all in the wedding party
Were you a bit of a bridezilla or was there any drama coming up to your wedding (don't tell me what it is don't worry, just curious)?
No, I was very very laid back. Only got upset about one thing (problem with the cake) and I was justified, I swear
What was the best thing about your wedding day other than of course marrying the person that you love?
I didn't have a father/daughter dance, instead I got a song my whole family loves (bouncy fun pop song) and I danced with my parents and siblings. It was so much fun and I loved it!
All the dancing, actually, was amazing.
What do you think makes a good/bad wedding?
Good wedding - no stress, keep calm, don't worry about things going wrong! No strict dress codes or schedule to keep to. A decent DJ!

Bad wedding - focussing on tiny details which don't matter, having unrealistic expectations, being too bothered by guests (not turning up, their outfits, presents etc)

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gotredonyou · 10/02/2015 10:35

What time of the year did you have your wedding?
November 2015
What type of flowers did you have?
Gypsophilia & Red roses
What did you do for your hen/stag do's?
I'm planning a spa day, DP fancies white water rafting!
What was your cake like?
Three tiers- chocolate, ginger, madeira covered in white icing with lace & Red roses.
What was your colour theme or general theme of wedding?
White, gold & burgundy.
How many people attended?
70 day guest 110 evening.
How many bridesmaids/best men/flower girls etc did you have?
3 bridesmaids, 3 best men
What type of venue did you have your wedding at (church, hotel, barn etc)?
Country Hotel
What form of entertainment did you have if any?
Dj/Photobooth/Sweetie cart.
What did you do about food/drink - buffet, 3 course meal, free bar, 1 bottle of wine per guest etc)?
3 course meal, 1 bottle of wine/3 beers per guest, buffet, sweetie cart.
Where did you go on your honeymoon and how long for?
Planning 14 nights in Mexico
Were children invited to your wedding?
Yes
Were you a bit of a bridezilla or was there any drama coming up to your wedding (don't tell me what it is don't worry, just curious)?
Not really, i'm pretty laid back.
What was the best thing about your wedding day other than of course marrying the person that you love?
I'll let you know..
What do you think makes a good/bad wedding?
Good wedding- Lots of family/friends/food/drink/fun/music
Bad wedding- Long wait for food/No options/no atmosphere/bad dj/band.

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WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 10/02/2015 10:48

What time of the year did you have your wedding? - June
What type of flowers did you have? - red roses
What did you do for your hen/stag do's? - no hen, DH went horse racing for stag
What was your cake like? - traditional three tiers, very plain. decorated with red roses
What was your colour theme or general theme of wedding? - depe red colour, no other theme
How many people attended? - about 50, would have preferred smaller, more in the evening
How many bridesmaids/best men/flower girls etc did you have? - one adult BM, one flower girl, one best man, two ushers
What type of venue did you have your wedding at (church, hotel, barn etc)? - hotel
What form of entertainment did you have if any? - jazz band in the evening, no dancing, DH and I hate dancing. Pool table, giant jenga, giant connect 4, dartboard etc. Big terrace outside to go and stand out on.
What did you do about food/drink - buffet, 3 course meal, free bar, 1 bottle of wine per guest etc)? - 3 course sit down at 4, buffet snacks in the evening, can't remember about wine
Where did you go on your honeymoon and how long for? - France, two weeks
Were children invited to your wedding? - family only
Were you a bit of a bridezilla or was there any drama coming up to your wedding (don't tell me what it is don't worry, just curious)? - no
What was the best thing about your wedding day other than of course marrying the person that you love? having friends and family together
What do you think makes a good/bad wedding?

Bad - lots of waiting around, big distances between venues, themes, dress codes, loud discos or ceilidhs in the evening with nowhere to escape to, crap food and wine.

Good - all in one location or close by, lots of people who know each other, friends, family, relaxing atmosphere with the emphasis on everyone having a good catch up and not being forced to dance.

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momb · 10/02/2015 10:50

What time of the year did you have your wedding?
mid-August
What type of flowers did you have?
home grown gypsophila and cornflowers
What did you do for your hen/stag do's?
DH went to learn encaustic wax art for a day. I stayed in with all my friends and made sugar flowers for the cake. Then a curry night the week before.
What was your cake like?
It was a two tier cake, bottom layer rich fruit, top tier lemon sponge, covered in bright green fondant and scattered all over with sugar flowers. Also 74 cupcakes also with green fondant and more of the coloured flowers. t'was amazing.
What was your colour theme or general theme of wedding?
We had no colour theme and no theme as such. It turned out like a fete or one day festival.
How many people attended?
124
How many bridesmaids/best men/flower girls etc did you have?
1 best man, 1 best woman. three bridesmaids, 2 girls to walk me down the aisle.
What type of venue did you have your wedding at (church, hotel, barn etc)?
barn
What form of entertainment did you have if any?
garden games, puzzles, crafts, bouncy castle, circus skills workshops, several musicians, ceilidh in the evening.
What did you do about food/drink - buffet, 3 course meal, free bar, 1 bottle of wine per guest etc)?
The caterers served the food from street stalls so we didn't have a sit down meal: everyone ate when they were hungry. We had different meat and non-meat choices (paella, pulled pork etc), ice cream van, sweets, tea and cake, crisps during the day, then in the evening a ploughmans buffet.
Free bar all day.
Where did you go on your honeymoon and how long for?
we went to a folk festival for 5 days with all our kids and the BM/BW and their children too.
Were children invited to your wedding?
yes
Were you a bit of a bridezilla or was there any drama coming up to your wedding (don't tell me what it is don't worry, just curious)?
Not a bridezilla, DM was repeatedly vocally disappointed about the lack of formality which was sad.
What was the best thing about your wedding day other than of course marrying the person that you love?
I really liked the music and the food, and seeing that everyone else was having a good time.
What do you think makes a good/bad wedding?
It needs to reflect the couple. I don't know why we associate sitting down for a three course meal at a table with people you don't know with weddings: why has it become 'the way it's done'. Followed by a lairy disco? such an odd combo.

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