AIBU my friend has started feeding her DS solids at 12 weeks

[thingsneedtochangepronto]

My friend has had a DS about 12 weeks ago and she has decided to start feeding him solids already she finds the whole situation funny but I'm rather concerned and too be honest disgusted that she has started him so early Ive spoken to other friends about it but they brush it off as she is very over sensitive and I dont think they want to upset her

[klmnop]

Very proud your posts are fine

[klmnop]

YABU. It isn't your business or decision its hers. 6 months hasn't always been the guideline. Its also just that a guideline. I weaned at 5 months with no problems. We all parent differently and you need to step back and recognise that. We aren't talking about neglect just a choice she has made based or her judgement of her baby's needs. I would personally step back from any so called "friend" who interfered or judged me directly. If you value the friendship I'd advise you to do the same.

[Whysonegativebepositive]

Thanks pug life for the advice I can't be bothered leave her too it in time we will see what happens

[puglife15]

Tbh if I knew someone doing this I'd probably be upset, it's not great for the baby's tummy. Wouldn't say anything outright but would probably ask some gentle leading questions. Not much you can do though...

[EDisFunny]

YABU it is none of your business.

[YorkieDorkie]

Veryproud I think you've said all you can. I can't see anything wrong with your posts.

[thingsneedtochangepronto]

Thanks for the tip I will

[thingsneedtochangepronto]

Veryproudvolleyballmum I think you think you are a know it all you didn't like your in laws judging but your doing a darn good job of judging me when you know nothing about me I think u are getting a little personal stop posting on this feed and find something else to do!

[SpeakNoWords]

There's nothing you can realistically do about it, but I agree that feeding a 12 week old solids without being told to by a health care professionals is not a good decision. Feeding it icecream is also clearly a poor decision. The baby is unlikely to come to any immediate harm though, and let's hope there aren't any longer term issues.

Also, the guidelines for waiting till around 6 months to wean have been in place for well over a decade, so it isn't a really recent change at all. It may seem so, as the previous generation will likely have been weaned at 4 months or younger, so you'll have grandparents or older relatives expecting weaning to start around then.

[SonicSpotlight]

They didn't pluck a figure out of the air. It was raised for a reason.

[thingsneedtochangepronto]

Veryproudvolleyballmum it's not a SIL

[dotdotdotmustdash]

It's only fairly recently that the advice has been to wean at 6 months, when I had my Dc it was 4 months. My own son started weaning at 11 weeks and was eating a full diet by 6 months. He slept through the night from then and has always been excellent at eating whatever is put in front of him. I know this isn't scientific, but I'm sure the baby in question will be absolutely fine - after all, most of us walking around were weaned way before 6 months.

[SonicSpotlight]

'Stop judging and accept you parent differently, which is totally fine'

No, judge away. What kind of person feeds a 12 week old ice cream???Nevertheless accept that nothing you say will change her behaviour so it's not worth damaging your family relationship over.

[FirstofherName]

I'm not saying OP should necessarily say anything, as she'd probably be ignored anyway, but you do all know that the WHO feeding guidelines are there for a reason? And aren't just changed on a whim. Yes, they used to suggest solids at 4 months but the reason it's now 6 months is evidence-based. Saying "I was fed solids from 10 weeks and I'm fine" is all very well but, as they often say, the plural of anecdote is not data.

[m0therofdragons]

My brother was weaned at 9 weeks old (1980s hv advice) and not only did he survive he has a Cambridge degree and fab job. Your dfs baby will probably be fine.
My dtds were weaned at 6months, 2.5 months before they learned to sit (they were prem) and now they are 4 and fine. Dd1 had colic and reflux so in desperation I weaned at 4 months - overnight I had a content baby. Stop judging and accept you parent differently, which is totally fine.

[hownottofuckup]

Is it always Ben and Jerry's or was it just a little taste?

[thingsneedtochangepronto]

The next 18 years are going to be a nightmare for me yeah righto that's so funny I'm crying with laughter

[Cosmo111]

I'm a parent and I think you need to take a step back allow her to parent her own child the way she wishes it is no concern to you.

[hownottofuckup]

Tbf she's feeding the baby solids earlier than advised (as millions before have) she isn't leaving the baby unattended, depriving it of food or affection? I think you can dislike it, and obviously it's against the guidelines but unless she's feeding the baby very inappropriate (salty etc) foods then the chances of harm coming to the child are fairly negligible and there really isn't much you can do.
If you do feel very strongly about it, you could talk to her? But I'd do it sensitively as she is unlikely to respond well otherwise I'd imagine.

[tireddotcom72]

Weaned at 15 weeks under peadiatrician advice as reflux meant more milk came up than went down was only baby rice and apple / pear not Ben and Jerry ice cream.

[Ninasimoneinthemorning]

Op you can't actually do anything apart from look after your own baby. I can see why uoir concerned though