Hurt

[sacero]

I am putting this here because I need to know I m not being unreasonable.
So I and my husband with our 2beautiful girls came to the uk in Jan last year and this move was supposed to be only for my masters and return back home which my husband paid for and promised me that it was only for a year cos he knows I wouldn't want to live outside the country.he had asked me if I saw myself living anywhere else and I rebuked it saying I can only visit and come back home.1month later we had an argument and he said to me that we are not going back home .we have a lovely house there and family well my family over there. 6months after the move I lost my dad which made him make up his mind that I won't go back but I am too miserable here and that is because I have no help.his mom comes around to help but who wants their mother in-law all the Time.he doesn't help around the house because he is the breadwinner so he stays home all day.I have no job except to mind the home which he says is not a big deal.back home it wasn't a big deal because I was happy and had all the help.here it's the opposite and all he does is pick the kids from school.he says he has spent so much money for this relocation so we must get our citizenship before going back and that's about five to 7 years ,not sure I can do it.I feel betrayed bacause he made this big decision without informing me and another big decision he just took is that he is traveling in 2weeks,I told him I can take care of the house and my children he says NO.his mum must come over to help me .now it seems I have no say in my home .to me he has destroyed the trust and bond we both share.we are constantly fighting and hardly talk to each other.honestly I am fed up and I think a year and a half is enough to know if I like it here or not.am I being unreasonable if I dnt come back here when I leave for the holidays?

[tastydiner]

I think you need to ask for your post to be moved to another board OP. I don’t think travel will help. Ask to be moved to relationships. I think you’ll get some help there. Where are you from originally as I think that might give an understanding in any cultural differences.

[aerkfjherf]

I would say give it your all for two years. Because it seriously takes that length of time and effort to be settled in a new country. Then if you are not happy, go home, with or without your partner.

[parietal]

Post this in relationships and you'll get much better support. Give a bit more background info like - what part of the world did you move from? How old are the kids? If you now have your MSc, could you get a job here?