Just wondering really as sometimes I DO wonder if there IS an underlying issue with me 😬
I'm 42 years old, married, kids, work full time etc etc. Genuinely happy.
But...I actively seek to avoid social situations. They don't make me nervous, but I just don't enjoy them. As an example, it's a big awards day at work today. I have won 2 prestigious awards...when I found out it was an awards day, I booked annual leave 😬 I'm really happy I got the awards but the thought of having to dress up, sit around with colleagues eating a meal.etc fills me with dread. I'd much rather just know I've got them, and be quietly given my award and move on.
I didn't go to my BSc graduation, I didn't go to my MSc graduation.... I don't go to hen dos, I avoid wedding parties. The amount I avoid it's a surprise I'm invited to anything really 😬
Even meals out with friends, I book, and as the date gets closer I feel resentful of having to leave my house, lose an evening relaxing and can't wait until it's over! One thing I do quite like is a day time coffee with a friend when I'm not at work. It feels like it doesn't take time away from my kids and relaxation time. I wonder if I feel like this as my life is so busy that I feel protective of my time at home maybe, although this was the same before I had children too...
I can't really explain it. I DO enjoy seeing friends when I am there, but the pleasure I have when someone cancels is immense!!! I'm not unsociable, infact people often think I'm the type of person who would love socialising because I'm confident, happy, jokey etc.
Everyone has been so excited about the awards thing at work, and all I feel is pure relief I'm not going.
I'm leaving my job in 3 months to start a new one. Everyone at work said 'we would suggest you have a leaving do but know you wouldn't come' 😬 And they're right!
Is anyone else like this?! Do I have an issue or is it just part of my personality?! I have brilliant friends BTW, who all laugh at my anti-social behaviour.
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Actively avoiding social situations but not socially phobic?!
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Nowanextraone · 16/04/2024 09:22
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