FIL made rude comments about my 4 month olds ears

[SophiaRose35]

My in laws popped round earlier today and when my FIL seen my 4 month old son he commented on his ears and said if "uncle Jim see you he will be calling you a jug with those ears" and making jokes about them being big. I said I don't think they're big and so did my mil. I think he needs some manners I can't stand most of husbands family when they come out with comments like this.
What would you do in these situations as I am getting sick and tired of rude "jokey comments"

[YoungBritishPissArtist]

What a horrible thing to say about a little baby 😡

was your DH there when this was being said? He needs to be putting his foot down and standing up to his parents.

[SophiaRose35]

My husband was holding baby and didn't say anything. I've had rude comments as long as my arms and tbh it's been to the point where I'm getting very fed up with them

[GreatGateauxsby]

What would you do in these situations?

honestly…
either nothing at all ever and just let them crack on with it
OR clap back hard first time.
so I’d something very cutting the first time he made a comment.
e.g. ”and comments like this are why no one likes you/everyone thinks you’re an arsehole FIL”

I’m fairly binary 😅

[DramaAlpaca]

I know it's easy with hindsight, but I'd have gone straight back with 'what a shame his ears are the only thing he inherited from you, FIL',

Sometimes being rude back is the only way, but if you can't do that you need to develop a thicker skin. Or get your DH to have a word.

I'm sure your baby is absolutely beautiful, BTW.

[deeprealisation]

I'm going to go against the grain here.
Has he got big ears. Do they stick out? Whilst you will see a perfect baby it's also healthy to be able to say 'gosh yes he's got big ears at the mo'
Same as I have a neice born with very big feet and one of mine had a massive head until his body caught up. Joking comments can be annoying but don't rise to it

[Catastropher]

If you don’t think the ears are big, then what’s the problem? Honestly it’s just a joke.

[therealcookiemonster]

it all depends on the tone and family culture. in some families/cultures affection is shown through humour. if its said in an affectionate way, I would just find that funny tbh.

[cheddercherry]

If they’re constantly coming out with stuff like that then either never rise to it or as someone said above come down hard e.g “well at least he’ll grow up, unlike his grandad apparently”.

Why didn’t your husband say something at the time?

[ButterflyKu]

Difficult one. If he genuinely has big ears then I can see why you may not have liked the joke. My son is 2 now but he’s always had ears that stick out a bit. When family members make jokes, I just go ‘haha yes we know his ears are pointy.’ I don’t mind the jokes though.

In your situation, I’d just ignore it and carry on. Some people like the reaction they get when doing/saying these things

[statetrooperstacey]

My youngest dd had A large funny shaped head and was variously know as onion Bhaji head and meatball. I I know as a new mum you feel the white hot rage when someone does or says anything about your lovely baby. But it honestly sounds like he’s being affectionate in his own cack handed way, I mean this is his grandson so he has got skin in the game ! I’m sure he didn’t mean to offend . If he has got big ears he will grown into them, my dd grew into her head 😁also if fil is the type to make these comments he can probably take it back, if it happens again say you can say fuck off fil , at least he hasn’t got your * skinny legs, or yes and he’s got your Bald head and pot belly as well or some other appropriate insult .

[Poppalina37]

Oh my days!!!

My sister met my 5 month old daughter for the first time last week....

She said.... Xxxxx ears are to big, you need to get them pinned back! 🤔🤔🤔

I said..... your mouth is too big! What can we do about that!!

It's funny how family think they can just say what they want when they want.... I feel so respected by my friends and colleagues and I spend time with my family and it's just awful!

I'm avoiding the lot of them.... I'm sure your little one's ears are perfect xx