Name changed for obvious reasons.
Not sure if this is the best place to post this. I want reasonable traffic but nervous of responses. I'm also not really sure I should be posting it. I'm just a bit shocked.
DD is 12 and in year 7. She's a great kid at heart. Caring, warm and everything you want a daughter to be. She is also, as I think is normal, a bit of a nightmare. Lazy, doesn't like to do things she doesn't want to, doesn't always like us and thinks she knows best. She can be stressful. She has a fire in her that I don't want to reduce but makes it hard to handle.
She has a phone and one of the conditions of this phone is that she allows me to check it whenever I wish. I used to do this in the morning when she was asleep. I never saw anything untoward. I backed off checking so often. A few times there has been an argument or someone she doesn't know has messaged her and she does respond. We have had conversations that she should not respond. They are probably not who they say they are and will not be messaging her with good intentions.
I checked today and a conversation from December is back at the top. This is because she was with her friends and will have been messaging this person for a giggle with her friends as none of them understand the danger. The messages in December are essentially a gay porn romance novel. He describes himself as a 16 year old gay or bisexual person but states he has no interest in girls. I think she thinks she is safe because of this and continued to message. He talks about losing his virginity in school to a boy and the bullying received after. It's extremely graphic. She responds to each message solely with "ok" and eventually with "how does that make you feel?" When he talks about bullying as a result.
I believe she thinks she is helping him go through a difficult time. As a pessimistic adult, I believe he is sexually excited by sending her these messages.
I will be talking to her tonight about it. She isn't in trouble. The only thing she has done wrong is to continue the conversation and not tell me about it. She is only 12 so I obv haven't done enough teaching her how disgusting the world can be. Obviously, she also shouldn't have messaged him with her friends.
So, to my point... would you report the profile to the police? I think I should. I'm also after advice on what I should or shouldn't say. I'm good in a crisis and generally do much better with stuff like this than telling her she can't have a sleepover or she has to do her homework but this could affect our relationship if I fuck it up. She has to be able to tell me when bad stuff happens.
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Report sender of inappropriate messages to the police?
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HelpMeHelpMyDaughterPlease · 15/04/2024 11:04
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