Over the past few years due to a few reasons (I think lockdown, change of jobs & becoming a mum) I’ve lost friends & acquaintances & have become very lonely but don’t know how to fix it. I’m 39, married with DS 3.5 yrs & 5Mo DD.
I returned to work after DS & being in the office 5 days per week with people to talk to daily I didn’t seem to notice so much, weekends were taken up with DS. Now I’m on maternity leave again I can’t stop feeling upset about how empty my life is in terms of friends. I only really have 2 friends, 1 of whom is in another part of the country but do talk / text daily & the other I see maybe once a month.
I’ve been going to a mum & baby music sensory class on a Sunday for past 5 weeks & few days ago was the last one in the block. I’ve been chatting each week with one mum who has been lovely & she’s asked a few times how any classes I have left, if she’ll see me again & if I’ll be booking more. As we were leaving she said we should go for a walk some time & she’ll get my number from the shared WhatsApp group. I panicked & said yes sounds good & never followed it up with anything & just got in the car!
I’d love for meet her as I am so lonely & she has a DD same age so we have lots in common but I know I won’t because I’m afraid of embarrassing myself, being annoying, complaining about motherhood etc. the thought of meeting someone gives me so much anxiety I’d just rather not! This has happened a few times in the past few years where I’ve hit it off with someone but as soon as it comes to getting friendlier I just can’t, then the other person never bothers. How can I overcome this? I feel like if I force myself to do this & meet up I’d be so stressed then spend the rest of the day analysing & cringing at everything I said & did. Why am I like this!
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plg · 09/04/2024 20:11
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