Anyone ever walked out of a job....literally walked out?

[nocontactforevermore]

I posted a thread on AIBU a few weeks ago and fb eh suggested asking on here as well. I have been in a temp post 6 weeks approx. Its part time, an academy and basically awful. In the briefest terms, the dept is a mess, kids are wild, and have embarked on an almost predicable witch hunt against me because they are disillusioned, fed up etc. The kids seem to rule the school, calling me foul names etc. Line manager tries to support, takes naughtiest out etc, but it's truly awful. No books, little ICT equipment, kids wee even studying wrong exam board. It's dreadful.

I want out. Union just said 'check their terms and conditions to see when you can leave/read the behaviour policy etc. useless.

Trouble is, I don't even want to go back Monday. I feel ill already and I'm only part time. I literally cannot face it.
I've had an 11 year unbroken career before this and took this jib so I could be in a less stressful role. I was a middle manager before this with a successful track record. I'm an idiot.

[nocontactforevermore]

[Ubik1]

I'm not a teacher...that is truly shocking - they have taken statements from the pupils and are now demanding your side of the story?????? How on earth can you go in and teach those children again when they have been allowed to discredit you to your managers?

I'm not in teaching...but from the outside, Christ almighty is this the way schools are run now?

Op - you have one life. Get signed off. This is an absolute nightmare and you are too good for it.

[Ubik1]

Could you get signed off, apply fir other jobs and be honest about the shit fest at interview?

[nocontactforevermore]

Oh yes, statements. They want a statement from me. They said they are concerned by how terrified the kids are and want to talk to me.

[ZingSweetApple]

a friend did.
had an opportunity for a 6 week visit and stay in Australia with her family and asked fir extended leave (added to annual leave and 4 weeks unpaid)

Employer said no. she said well I'm going either way - do find a replacement asap.

[nocontactforevermore]

Ubik I think a lot of employers request a reference before thur offer you an interview. They would find out about me before I got a chance to explain myself :/

[Scarletohello]

All I can say about this from years of working is..

NO JOB IS WORTH YOUR MENTAL HEALTH!

No job. I had a job where I was so upset and angry about how I was being treated ( and this was a charity) that I would lay awake at night, unable to sleep, ruminating about it. If its not right for you, do whatever you have to do and go.

[MothratheMighty]

Statements from pupils after any incident are standard practice now, part of the whole pupil voice and transparency. Allegations are investigated, but the children should feel free to say whatever they want to.
Then you have to refute their accusations. Be very clear about what you did, said, how you said it and any NV that went on, such as proximity and hand gestures.

[Scarletohello]

Also, listen to your self talk, you are saying that if you leave you will be a quitter, weak and fraudulent. These things are not fundamentally true about you. You have lots of admirable qualities but you are not getting the tools or support to do this job. You are obviously a very conscientious person. It's not your fault. Let go and walk away. You will thank yourself for this in years to come...

[nocontactforevermore]

Thanks guys.so nice.

Mortha, I know it's logical, statements and all that, have experienced it before. I've just never been told to express my 'side of the story' , like somehow what I might say is lies or in doubt. It all feels so awful. I'm glugging wine as we speak. I did not leave a middle management well paying job for this:/
Even the good kids in the class have jumped on board - there's a witch hunt going on and I can do nothing about it:/

[Ubik1]

But surely calling a teacher a 'cunt' is instant suspension if not expulsion. It's gross misconduct at work.

I can see the need fir a third party to talk to pupil about what went on but taking statements? Giving them the impression that their behaviour was in any way justified..sigh... I suppose I was at school a long time ago.

[nocontactforevermore]

The kid that called me a cunt was in the corridor the next day laughing and sneering on the corners. She WAS taken out of my class though. Isn't that fab?

[ThatVikRinA22]

i think i would be contacting your union.

last year, i went off with "stress" and had a 5 month stint off work. It did me the world of good, and i didnt think i would go back to the profession im in (its not teaching but another public service which is bashed, its workforce disillusioned and morale very low)

i think if you cant stomach the thought of riding it out until easter then its your only other option really.

i did go back and its not adversely affected my career path - in fact it made my management sit up and take notice of the pressure i was under.

at least talk to your GP.

[MaeveWest]

I did.

Years ago. Was much, much younger. Boss was an ignorant baffoon. He made me sort through rubbish to look for a post it note. Ridiculous. I think he got off on it. I did it, to my shame, when I didn't find the fucking post - it note he had the nerve to tut me. I took my mug, took my CV out of the filing cabinet so they couldn't bother me at home, and I said bye instead of see you and walked out. He was some asshole that fat bastard.

[MaeveWest]

ps, when I say rubbish, I don't mean a little paper waste bin. I mean a big black back of refuse that had already gone outside.

[FireMaker]

I suspect you could just miss it off your cv. I have had several part time/full time/sahm time over the past 6 years and no one is ever that interested.

I would leave a gap on your cv, and if questioned say that you tried to be a sahm but you missed the teaching.

[woodrunner]

Get yourself signed off sick with stress. Then sort out how to leave. I saw your first thread. I can't believe you are still there.

[YoureAllABunchOfBastards]

Just go. Seriously, go. Go off sick and resign ASAP.

[inadreamworld]

I am a teacher too and so is DH. I have walked out of two jobs - one a crappy sales job when I was very young. I didn't make any sales (ad sales) and the boss was horrible. They didn;t pay me my last months salary but I was so glad to be gone I didn't make a fuss. No come back - I had only been there a few weeks so left it off my CV.

I walked out of one school for similar reasons to you. They threatened me with legal action but they did nothing. I wrote to the head saying I was so stressed and the place was making me ill (it was!). They wouldn't give me a reference of course but I had only been there 2 months and the next school accepted a reference from an earlier job.

I say walk out don't make yourself ill.

[nkf]

I read your last thread and it sounds awful. Can't you go to whoever it is and say something along the lines of this isn't working out, it's not what I expected and I would like to leave asap. Let's talk terms and conditions and how soon I can leave.

You are making asssumptions that they are going to bad mouth you all over town. Maybe. Maybe not. If they do, then deal with that then. But don't put up with an intolerable situation because you are imagining a future scenario.

[Phineyj]

I honestly don't think a school this disorganised and uncaring are going to bother to badmouth you and if you've been there a very short time, it's not relevant as a reference anyway. There will be a way to cover it on a CV.

Just go - no job's worth this angst. They'll do some deal with you. It's not that unusual for otherwise good employees to make a mistake one time in a career re accepting a job. Thinking about myself and friends, we've all done it at some point.

[cat811]

Fwiw, in my experience references are only taken up if they like you at interview - on any application forms I have filled in, there is a box you tick if you don't want them to contact your references before interview/before they decide if they want you (which is needed for situations where you are applying for a job before handing notice in)
I think you would definitely be able to explain the situation in an interview - plus you can say you have out them as one ref, but that as you were only there a limited no of weeks,a more accurate picture of you would be achieved by contacting the school before, where you were for much longer.If they like you and want you, they won't be put off by what a short-term place says about you.

[nocontactforevermore]

I feel better already.....so does anyone think I could actually get away with turning my phone off and literally not turning up on Monday? Like pretending the whole thing never happened?

[itsbetterthanabox]

I walked out on a job. Told them what I thought of them and left. Just started looking for a new job, it was fine.