I have been a regular on mn for 7 years but too much information links together so just name changing for this thread.
As a family we are hoping to get a Briard puppy in a months time. I've spent months and months researching, speaking to breeders, breed clubs etc and narrowed my search down to a breeder who clearly cares very much for her dogs and their welfare.
We were originally looking at February this year but the timing just wasn't right and we decided to wait for the breeder's second bitch to have her litter which was born 4 weeks ago.
We've visited the dogs and met the puppies. They are beautifully kept, well loved and extremely well cared for. Made our short list, offered our deposit so far so good.
Back in February the breeder told me over the phone that I sounded like an ideal owner, at home all day, DH works from home, two children aged 9 and 11 everyone keen. I have land and horses and love being outside.
In the past week she has asked if she could meet my husband and children, fine I said although I have not told the children as want it to be a surprise. I said that she was more than welcome to do a home visit, meet the family and see our house, land etc. Misunderstanding as she wanted us all to go to her. I explained that my husband just cannot take a day out from his work ( they live hours from us) but would be more than happy to talk on the phone. Also explained again that the puppy is a surprise so obviously the children can't meet at her house as bit obvious why we were there - what reason would I be there for?
She is now being very awkward saying that she absolutely has to meet my family and that she doesn't approve of puppies been given as presents. I have been in contact with her for 6 months and she knows without a shadow of a doubt that I will be the main career. I am not handing the puppy over to two children for sole responsibility for the next 15 years!
I feel extremely upset at her attitude towards me as she was so positive up until this point saying what a wonderful owner she thought I would make. I totally understand that as a responsible breeder she wants the best possible homes for her puppies but I am wondering if this is going to be a deal breaker? I'm really not trying to be difficult but wondering how to compromise on this to keep everyone happy.
Is it normal to insist on meeting the whole family? She has had someone from Europe come to visit the puppies, I wonder if she insisted on them bringing their entire family over with them??
I have invested so much time and energy into trying to do this all by the book, being as responsible as I can. I just so want it to be surprise for my children, I worry that if I do decide to take them up there and then she turns us down anyway for some reason they will be devastated - I would prefer them never to know that there was a chance ifswim.
Sorry this is so long, I just feel so passionate that we could give one of these pups a great home but if I don't comply with her absolute wishes we could lose the opportunity. I'm scared that she holds all the cards and that she could just move the goalposts again.
Would appreciate any views as to what is 'normal' in these situations?
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Puppydilemma · 03/06/2012 15:02
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