my 14 year old girl slags off what I wear

[michele61]

My teenage daughter , 14, has started to comment that what I wear might embarrass her in front of her friends. I do tend to dress ( young) because I am slim and work out, but I don't wear mini skirts or anything I don't feel comfortable or confident in. Or so I thought. Today I was wearing a top that shows my midriff, which is slim and toned, and she said "Are you wearing that out??" and it really knocked my confidence and now I've put it in the bin and feel depressed and old. I'm 47. I feel my confidence seeping away and her negative comments seem to have so much more impact than my friend's compliments or my husband's. I can't work out why what she says holds such weight for me. My mum was also slim and fit and I used to love what she wore and she used to loan me things. It was lovely.

[nappyaddict]

was it actually a crop top or just a normal top that's a little bit short and shows the gap between your jeans and your t-shirt?

[lovemyprincessandprince]

Hi

Im a 18 Year old and my Partners Mother is 47 years old and she has the body of a teenager and dress's like one too
which i think any one over the age of 40 who can still dress like that is doing a bloody good job... im sorry to think your child thinks you should'nt dress like that .. does she want you to dress like a 70 year old???

and any way she will be your age one day and is she going to dress like a 70 year old???

ask her ??

and way i think its brill you are so confident and dont let people bring you down... wear what you want to wear and live your life... your only 47 once

[AuntEm]

Anything you wear, say or do is likely to embarass your daughter in front of her friends. It doesn't take much to embarass a 14 yo IME, in fact I might have to start wearing my invisibility cloak when dd's friends are around. Wear what you feel happy with and stay confident, for her sake as well as yours.

[mamhaf]

Agree with auntem.

I tell my dds that they'll find it's in the small print of their contract that their parents will embarrass them - it's payback for the tantrums in Tesco we had to endure when they were toddlers.

[45nanny]

MAMHAF. you gave me the best laugh i have had all week .

[tarantula]

I so agree. Part of our job as parents is to embarrass our teenage kids, just by existing obviously.
Wear what you fancy I say. I do and sod everyone else.

[oneoftheyoungns]

well i am 16 nd lovin it nd my mum wears backless tops nd skinny jeans... but wudn be to kean on the middrift revealing top myself neva mind when in my late 40 but except for that you should where what ever you like im always borrowing my mums clothes nd she's 43 wud neva tell her she looks like mutton she can where what eva she likes im not bothered so tell your dd how u feel nd dont take no hurt from it cause she is hittin her teens....

[Tidgypuds]

There are so many sexy beautiful clothes out there that dont show off vast amounts of flesh.
I would like to think that at your age I will be toned and slim but would hope that I was confident enough with myself that I didnt feel the need to flaunt it.

[Tortington]

My dd, hates my clothes, but I ask her to try to be objective.
"ok, so its not something YOU would wear granted, but does it look ok on me?"

type of thing

other times ( most of the time) i say " well if you did, i'd worry, i certainly don't want a 15 year olds dress sense"

[honeyandlemon]

Michelle - you wear what you like - and why not?? don't worry about it - be yourself. I'm envious - I haven't got the body for it, but if I had I would!!

[toddlerama]

You could suggest going shopping together for some stuff? As some one else already said, teenagers have a good eye even if they go practically naked themselves! I remember me and my mum going through this and I used to feel so happy when she wore something I had picked out for here - like she valued my opinion.

[toddlerama]

Congrats on having a great figure by the way! I'm very jealous - at 27 I have a jelly belly and a half!!