Alienated teenage daughter

[wildlingtribe]

Does anyone have any advice how to navigate life with my teenage daughter who has obviously been alienated away from me by her father and grandmother.
It hasn't happened with my three youngest.

It's broken my heart and continues to stab deeper everyday.

How do I navigate this when all I receive is lies, push back, disrespect and ignorance from my lovely girl who was so close with me up until last summer.

😭

[goldenretrievermum5]

There are two sides to every story, OP.

[Dareisayiseethesunshine]

Ime - when ds gave up coming here and stayed where he was allowed to drink and take drugs I simply left him to his choice. A year later he realised himself his life wasn't how he wanted after all. Look after yourself and the dc you have with you.

[AnneLovesGilbert]

Are you the poster with the recent holiday query? If so I’d focus on the DC still living with you for now.

[Flapearedknave]

My DD did come back. It's a waiting game. And it's painful.

I'm sorry op.

[Burntouted]

Have you ever thought that these are her personal choices and that the father and grandmother are supporting her decisions, and protecting her?

If she's happier and at peace there, respect her choice to remain there.

Parent from afar the best way that you can ask to visit sometimes.

Maybe it is in her best interest for her to remain there.
Such little context is given.
We also don't know her side of things

[MorrisseysMisery]

Such a minefield this teenager malarkey. My middle son was ruined by his paternal grandparents but despite all the expensive gifts he has received over the years he can now see them for what they are, all the minimising of exdp alcohol issues and denying things

[AnotherFamilyNightmare]

I can’t guarantee it will work but calmly giving your side of the story, justifying your actions/decisions and acknowledging the other side’s version of events and that there are different viewpoints can help.

Do you spend time with the teen and their friends eg do their friends visit them at your home? Do they discuss things with their friends. IME, in their mid teens, their peers often know or see what is being said or done if one parent is trying to alienate the other, and start to speak up. Teenagers can be surprisingly insightful and rational when it comes to their friends’ families, if not their own 😂

Would they agree to family therapy?