I know that raising teens is hard but I have seen my lovely DD turn into an entitled, rude, snarky 17 year who regularly tells us she hates our family. The last 12 months have been horrible.
She is mean and cold towards us unless she wants something. Spends all of her time in her room. No interest in me, her dad or younger sister. She is entitled and arrogant. Hard to like actually. I know she smokes and vapes with her friends.. I don’t think there is more than that. She has a social life but not out that much. She doesn’t seem depressed or anything.
she is almost an adult so I had hoped things would be better by now but it’s the worst they have been. She doesn’t do anything around the house and her bedroom is vile. She treats us like a taxi service and the house like digs. Seldom eats a meal with us, makes cheese toasties at unreasonable times instead.
I’ve reasoned, I’ve rowed, I’ve tried to negotiate to get her to keep her room reasonable. It’s a health hazard. Filthy plates and cups. Her recently purchased furniture is burnt from hair straighteners and she’s split stuff on carpet and not cleaned it up.
She didn’t acknowledge Mother’s Day. I don’t expect much but a card might have been nice. The irony was she texted me (from her room) to ask for a photo of me and her for her TikTok as all her mates were posting mum pics. I don’t get to see said post as I am blocked from all of her social media.
i am tired of this. She achieves at 6th form and has a uni place for September . Whether she goes this year or next I’m not sure. She has a job in a cafe so has money to spend. At least I’m not paying out. I don’t want her last year at home to be like a Cold War. I want to preserve some kind of relationship but at the moment I feel like a drudge and a doormat,
I have tried to discuss this with her but she says she can’t be bothered. A row takes us nowhere and simply alienates us further. I want some kind of relationship going forward but I’m scared to push it. I wonder where my funny sweet girl went.
can anyone advise me? It is so upsetting.
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How can I maintain a relationship with DD?
Fenimore · 12/03/2024 06:40
PleaseenterausernameX · 12/03/2024 07:15
it sounds very normal
It's not normal and accepting it as normal behaviour gives some teens free rein to behave like entitled little shits.
OP - be the parent and impose boundaries. If your DD won't clean her room, go in with a bin bag and put in everything that's on the floor. Leave it in the hall and tell her she has X amount if time to retrieve what she wants from it.
Ban eating in her room.
Tell her frequently that you love her but have too much self respect to let her treat you and your home the way she does.
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