School after suicide attempt

[hannah1977]

Posting as I’m really struggling to know what to do.
DD has history of being bullied and has been struggling with mental health over past year culiminating in a suicide attempt 6 week ago. Dd was discharged from hospital under CAmhs... so far we’ve had phone calls which mainly consist of staying safe advice with the promise of treatment eventually - I think it’s now 5 weeks until the CAmhs dr appointment to consider meds and early assessment whether she might have ASD and I think to refer for talking therapy/cbt but I know that even then she will just go in the queue.
Since then she’s been better - I’ve been trying my best not to rock any boats, to make her feel loved and secure and arrange for her to see safe friends and put some boundaries calmly in place re sleeping habits and going to see school counsellor. I made her go to achool while there is just a small group there, in part to give the routine and structure and in part to see if she would cope before the whole school goes back. She has.. but there is no real support or welfare in place so it’s a bit of a lottery.
She had private psych appointment yesterday and through talking through the history of bullying etc she was very angry and upset and really exactly where she was emotionally after her attempt (angry, refusing to engage etc) The doctor said they felt it was not safe to allow her to go to school as until DD gets better, which she isn’t as nothing has changed, the risk of suicide is still high and school cannot (even if they wanted to) keep her safe.
I’m worried about everything. If anyone can help or tell me their experience i would be very grateful.

[Noregrets78]

Wow you'd think they'd take safe guarding more seriously... do they have a pastoral team? In my DD's school the SEN team does this role.
One suggestion - my local authority has an 'early intervention' team which I found out about much too late. To help families with all sorts of difficulties mainly in liaison, making sure you have all the help you're entitled too. Worth seeing if you have similar? They might be a good sounding board to understand what help you should be getting / what would be reasonable for school to put in place.
You're right to push.

[hannah1977]

Thank you for replying. She’s nearly 14. School have been willing to have her back but there is nowhere near the level of support and supervision in place that is needed. From Tuesday to Friday last week no one spoke to her - the basics of well-being checks aren’t there let alone the supervision which I acknowledge is a difficult (if not impossible) task. She has said she has no safe friends at school and no adult she trusts. She refuses to move schools. I am trying to engage with school over what my concerns are and particular areas which are a worry eg social conflicts and crowds. I just feel lost - I want to help her.

[Noregrets78]

Every sympathy for you, what a tricky situation. How old is your DD? Have you explained the situation to school and asked how they would plan to keep her safe?
In our similar situation I was quite impressed how willing school were to have her back. Never 100% safe, but then neither is home unless you're 'eyes on' at all times.
Was that the private psychiatrist who said not safe to go to school yet? As that's quite concerning - if she was open with the dr, then they should have a good view of what's risky.
I'd push CAMHS more to give you advice. It's too easy for them to tell you you're responsible for keeping your DD safe, but then without practical information.
IMO the suicidal urges / feeling do take a while to fade, it's a long hard slog. It's very difficult to ever switch off the radar and relax again. Do look after yourself (sounds trite but so true).
Bit of a ramble sorry, I do hope things improve for you.