My 17 year old son was in a relationship with his first love for two years but she ended it, he tried moving on for a month then went on tinder and meets an 18 year old in less than a day and is now in a relationship with her,
I made the mistake of letting her stay a night and then she was here all the time,
I've told them both she can stay 2 night, so 3 whole days as any longer it can affect my benefits as she is classed as a non dependent as she works, her parents won't let him stay over, he's only been to hers once, my son and her always make excuses for her to be here, when she's not here they're on the phone to each other constantly
Now I've put my foot down and said I'm not backing down so no longer 3 days, but they're now looking at rooms and flats to rent, they both work at a fast food place on low wage, he's been in work a couple of weeks, and been with her about 3 weeks , she has gave up a job in her home town a few miles away and got a job at the same place as him, she starts tomorrow
It's moving so fast and as he's talking about moving out in January and getting a place with her, so I need advice, if I say no I'll push him away but if I say yes then he'll move out and might realise what he's done and move back when the honeymoon period is been and gone,
Thing is he's also at college and has a good job to go to start as soon as he turns 18 as long as he stays in college, I take him to college but if he leaves I've told him he can get the bus but I'm not sure he will,
All my benefits for him will stop if he leaves and then I'll need to restart them if it doesn't work out between them and he moves back home
He says I'm selfish as my benefits are free money so it shouldn't matter if I loose them because she is here all the time, I'm on benefits due to anxiety, depression and social phobia, I'm on antidepressants for it and for sleep and this is affecting my mental health
What can I say to him so he understands I'm not being selfish and 3 whole days is fair, and keeping your own place, bills, rent etc isn't as easy as he thinks?
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17 year old been in relationship 3 weeks now they want to get a flat
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MummyFourty · 02/12/2019 08:11
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