14 year old battle!

[daggerdanny]

Hello, I'm a bloke, not sure if I'm allowed on Mumsnet or not but need to get stuff off my chest!

The background, daughter is 14, son nearly 17. Been divorced for one month. I've been living away from their mum for over four years and the kids live with me and have no interaction (or extremely minimal) with their mother who's alcohol dependant.

I have been in a new relationship for two years and my daughter just cant accept it and we have a constant running battle.

She's constantly rude to me and despite saying she wants to spend time with me doing father daughter things, whenever I offer to do something (several times as week!) She gives me the cold shoulder and just sits in her room night after night. If I decide to go out on one of these nights when I'm sat on my bum on my own in the living room, she'll kick off again, yet she's had the opportunity to sit with me, watch a film, go to the shops!

I just can't win whatever i do!!!!!

Anyone else have these issues?!

[daggerdanny]

How do you deal with it? Driving me insane and feeling so guilty.

[daggerdanny]

Thanks for the messages, its a constant battle. Two good weeks and now its all gone to pot again and she's moved in with her Nan :(

Suppose its just a battle that I'll have to carry on having!

[Livedandlearned]

You can't win sometimes with dc, but always be consistent.

[mumma24]

Yes, having similar issues with my 14 and 15 year old. Typical behaviour for teens

[user1494670108]

As no one else has replied, I would says it's fairly par for the course at her age, I have a 14 year old dd who is very similar. Doesn't want to be with me but doesn't want me not to be there for her.
I think you just give her as much notice as possible when You're going out and do your best to encourage her to see it from your POV