Teens and weed

[Maisie36]

I have recently discovered that my 15 yr old son is regularly smoking weed. We found all of the paraphernalia in a box in his room, and when confronted he showed no shame! He thinks it's totally normal, that everyone he know does it, and really cannot see why we would have a problem with it! What do I do, now I know that every social event he goes to that's what they are all doing?

Or erm never.

I just wanted to confirm that my son also says weed is prevalent amongst the teenagers at school, with the usual "everyone does it" as an excuse. Of course I remember my mother saying "if everyone else jumped off a cliff..."

We went through essentially the same as OP a couple of years ago, and I do urge you to seek help, as others have also recommended. Whilst a little weed may be relatively harmless, why take the risks. For what it's worth, I think we were too late and my son still smokes the stuff (probably always will at this stage).

I will also add that it does appear to be genuinely rife amongst the teenagers at my son's school, and that is how it is so readily available - only a few need to have access to a supply, and it spreads like wildfire. A few dollars and instant social gratification keeps the market going. I wasn't naive in thinking that sending my son to a good independent school would avoid these problems, but one of my friend's daughters goes to a state school which apparently has similar issues, so it seems there really is no escape.

We just have to be vigilant during the times we can control their behaviour, and I support the suggestion of drug testing. If they have breached trust, there is no point making a charade about it.

What professional help is there? I’ve looked online at the FRANK website which is informative but not really helpful.

My son smokes it and I’m worried that he’s doing other drugs too. He lives with his dad Mon- Fri as he has an apprenticeship and it’s easier for him to get to work from his dads.

He comes here for the weekend and I hardly see him as he’s out with his mates, which is fine but when he is here he’s either asleep or miserable. He’s 18 in 3 weeks.

How can you punish/ ground an 18 year old? He’s practically an adult. How on earth can we make him see what he’s doing.

My son is 20 and has been smoking weed since he was at least 15, he’s tried to give up before but hasn’t, it is addictive one way or another. It does seem that I’m the only parent who doesn’t want my son to smoke weed, apparently all his friends parents are fine with it! I won’t have it in the house but that’s apparently infringing in his privacy, he does suffer from anxiety which I believe has been exasperated but weed but he says the anxiety has been suppressed by the weed. There is no reasoning with him over this, what he says goes and everyone else is wrong! It’s just nice to know I’m not the only one who feels like this. If you can put a stop to this then do with everything you have because it just gets harder the longer they smoke it and the older they get