Overbearing mother alert!!!
Ds (yr 9) has recently made friends with a girl in his year at school. He's started going out to meet her after school and on the weekend. They message each other a lot when he's at home.
He's been perfectly open about the friendship (after a little interrogation from me and is sharing a lot more info with me than I ever did with my own mother!!!).
I've suggested they hang out at our house instead of wandering the village when the weather is shitty but he is mortified by this idea. I've promised I won't embarrass him and will leave them to watch tv downstairs while I hide in my room 
but this is still a stupid idea (in his opinion!!).
Any thoughts? Should I back off and just let him do as he wants? I admit I am a little terrified of this teenage phase...my own was hideous and I don't want Ds' and my relationship to turn out like mine and my mother's.
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Ds (13) won't let me meet his girlfriend!!
HiccupHaddockHorrendous · 06/02/2016 13:56
DS was only gone 1.5 hrs. His date had been told to be home within the hour, so short but sweet! He seems to be quite happy with how it went, but when I asked him if they had arranged anything else, he said he wanted to but was too scared to ask 
. I have told him to at least drop her a text to show he is still interested...
Yes and 30 mins before he was meant to!! They ended up going to his friend's house because it was raining so much ...only feeling a little miffed that they didn't come here 
I had the same with my Dd14 wouldn't bring the boyfriend home out in all weather I did all sorts promised not to speak to him 9 months they agreed to venture in the garden then to the garden room x same boyfriend nearly two years later can't get them to go outside x be careful what you wish for
It's my poor attempt at trying to be funny and not taking things too seriously (esp the cool mum comment!)
Zen - it's ok, he's taking my coat...it's much better than his own in the rain, apparently
Anchor - I'll leave him a towel by the door
RudeElf - I'm really not pestering him about it. It's only when the weather's bad and he's asked to go out. I already know all of his other friends (friends since start of primary) but yes, if he wanted to meet up with them in similar circumstances, I'd offer for them to come here. They mostly communicate via the ps4 though and none of them will go out in the wet or cold
rogue. 
DS didn't tell us they had split. We were on holiday and we were looking around the shops. There was me bleating on about getting her 'one of those nice bracelets she wears' and showing him some.
He then told me. 
Aw, zen, I hope they have a successful first date!!
I do wonder if I'm just a little bit jealous.
I want to go on a date!!!
Re Valentine's Day - I sent him into the card shop the other day to choose a card for his aunt's birthday, thinking he'd maybe sneak a Valentine's card at the same time, while I waited outside with the shopping but my hint was obviously too subtle because he asked me to go in and help choose his aunt's card
Update - he's on his way out to meet her now in the pouring rain!
It's really uncommon for 13YOs to bring boyfriends/girlfriends home IME. Definitely don't take it personally. Perhaps they think that bringing a bf/gf home is 'too serious'.
As Sparkling says, it's unlikely that this will last long anyway. I give it three months tops! (sparkling my DD had the loveliest bf ever when she was 14. I was 'gutted' as they say, when it ended.
I think a lot of the appeal of a gf/bf at their age is the novelty and feeling independent.
I didn't know that my DD had a few bfs when she was 13 until she was 14. In retrospect I was glad!
Yes, the teenage stage takes a bit of getting used to... 
Rude - blush In what way
Just the pestering. He doesnt want to bring her home, its a first girlfriend i assume? Leave them be. It'll likely not last more than a few weeks. Do you insist he brings all his friends home or is he allowed to meet boy mates in the rain?
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