I am truly at my wits end with my almost 13 year old daughter. I just don't recognise her at the moment and feel like she is slipping away.
Over past six months I have found out that she has been taking money from my purse and now my dh's wallet, totalling around £100. To cut a painful story short, I did seek advice from the police, who wrote a stern letter to her and offered to visit her in a marked car, if it happened again.
Well, it has. She has screamed at me tonight that she hates me and will burn the house down if I contact the police again and they come to the house. I am too strict. She wants to live with my mum (good luck with that) and she envies her friends.
She just doesn't seem to 'get it' and how wrong her behaviour is. She thinks saying sorry (although not in any way acting sorry) is enough and she is then entitled to instant forgiveness.
I have removed her iPad and phone and boxed up make up, toiletries etc and put them in the attic for her to earn back. She also has a chart which lists jobs she can earn money for. At the moment she is paying back the last £40 she stole.
I am 99.9% certain she is not being bullied or blackmailed. Rather that it is an unbelievable sense of entitlement and trying to keep up with her friends who all obviously have so much more than her.
I am truly at my wits end with her. I feel like I'm in an abusive relationship- if it was anyone else I could tell them to fuck off. I am beginning to feel like I despise her, then I absolutely hate myself for it.
She is a good girl at heart. She's getting on well at school academically but i think socially she struggles to find her niche. But the person she is turning into...I just don't recognise her.
Sorry this is so long. I don't know what I am aiming for this post to achieve but just need to offload and ask for advice about what you would do. I feel so so ashamed. I never thought the teen years would be like this. And she's still only 12!!
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mrscraig · 02/02/2016 21:49
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