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Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

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Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

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DD bleeding too heavily

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tilliebob · 14/03/2014 07:24

My DD is 13 later this year and started her periods last month. She bled very heavily, but I told her this would settle down in time. However, she's started again pretty much exactly a month later and the same thing has happened again.

We were out at a family do last night so she was late in bed -about 11 rather than 9.30 - and when I went to wake her today, she's soaked her pants, PJ bottoms, and the bed . It looks like a blood bath and she's a bit freaked (so am I tbh).

So my question is, will this settle down? I can't think back that far for myself and none of my friends have girls at this age yet. DH (who officially doesn't know any of this as DD doesn't want him or her brothers to know yet) is all set to storm A&E with her . Do I sit tight and wait for a few more months or do I get her to the docs now?

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juniorcakeoff · 14/03/2014 19:01

Hmm I used to get this at her age, remember it horribly. Grew out of it after a year, then just 'normal' heavy rather than flooding. Def take her to the doctor though you don't want this happening at school.

youbethemummylion · 14/03/2014 19:04

As someone who had a similar experience aged 12 please please take her to GP and also maybe advise to use tampons and pads also disposable tena lady style pants for night time. I was such a wriggler in bed blood would be everywerein the morning.

blueberryboybait · 14/03/2014 19:05

I remember this well i still have floods and wish I had known at 13 things could be done to help. I now put a pampers bed mat under my sheet when I have my period. It saves the mattress and can easily be whipped away if she is worried about brothers/dad seeing things.

Musicaltheatremum · 14/03/2014 22:44

You could try her with some ibuprofen over the weekend. (If she's not asthmatic) At her age she could take it 3 or 4 times a day. These non steroidal antiinflammatories can help reduce the bleeding and help the pain. As a GP I would not find it an unreasonable thing to be contacted with over the weekend if it is still as bad tomorrow. Could get her on some treatment before Monday. It's not an emergency but it's pretty awful for her and I would be sympathetic to this.

onthehill · 14/03/2014 23:17

My dd the same, and she was prescribed the pill at 13,loads better and cleared up her spots too! It was also suggested that she could have the depo provera injection, no periods at all, and only once a month, though I don't know what the current thinking is on this. It felt very weird for me to have my little girl on the pill, but the gp didn't actually tell her it was a contraceptive, just a medication for her hormones (which it is, I guess), and that felt better. Good luck x

birdmomma · 15/03/2014 03:27

This happened with my DD1, and they lasted 9-12 days, and were more frequent than monthly. Eventually she became severely anaemic. We tried low dose pill but it made her really grumpy and tearful. She is now on the depo. I don't feel like we ever got to the bottom of why it was like this for her.

SecretWitch · 15/03/2014 03:42

My 15 yr old dd bled through her uniform at school this week. She was in floods of tears. Her periods are heavy and often come twice a month. We are off to gynae next week. She should not be suffering this way..

I'm so sorry your dd is experiencing this, perhaps a trip to the gynae will sort her out. Sending hugs to you both.

OurMiracle1106 · 15/03/2014 11:51

I hope your DD is feeling a little better today.

RufusTheReindeer · 15/03/2014 12:06

Hi, my daughter has had her 2nd period where she bled for 3 weeks and for a good 5days she bled through sanitary towel, pants, and trousers on to any furniture she was on! She leant against a wall and left a patch (took me ages to figure out what it was as I was just painting the same wall blue!)

I was going to leave it for another few months and if it hasn't settled take her to the doctor and get her on the pill.

She is 12 and I have just bought some heavy duty sanitary towels for the next period. Cheap towels for the bed is a great idea

Not sure how much attention she was spending during sex ed class as she didn't seem to know that it would last longer than a day!

Hope your daughter is ok, it is scary bleeding like a stuck pig. And while I am happy to agree that an average period has a teaspoon of blood logically some women must lose a lot more blood than that

RufusTheReindeer · 15/03/2014 12:07

Should say that when I was her age I bled for 3 weeks at a time (though I don't remember it being that heavy), I was on the pill at 13 and everything calmed down and became a lot more manageable

AlpacaLypse · 15/03/2014 12:09

Have you made an appointment at the GP yet?

And if he/she tries to tell you it's normal and she'll grow out of it, insist on a second opinion.

tilliebob · 15/03/2014 13:07

No appts to be had yesterday and not a chance I can take her until next Friday at the earliest. She won't go with DH or my mum about this.

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birdmomma · 15/03/2014 20:03

My doctor who is usually wonderful really seemed very unconcerned about my daughter's heavy and constant bleeding. When she became anaemic, she tried to suggest that it was because we were vegetarian. She's never been anaemic! I never got to the bottom of it, she is on the depo now so it's all good, but i don't know if there is an underlying cause. She stopped being anaemic a short while after going on the depo of course.

Cocolepew · 15/03/2014 20:11

My DD is heavy, she is on T. Acid. She has to take it 3 times a day for the first three days of her period
Try giving your DD Magnesium, 200mg a day.
What pads is she wearing? DD wear 2 (Im not sure she actually needs 2), Always Ultra, the long ones with wings. She has tight short type pants, I think the are control pants, from Primark over her knickers to keep everything tight and in place.

RedandChecker · 15/03/2014 20:16

I remember being like this and hiding bed sheets as I was so embarrassed I didn't even tell my mum! It's good she is letting you know. For me, it settled at about 15 and I wore extra everything and put a towel down! But no harm in talking to the GP if you are worried.

AlpacaLypse · 16/03/2014 12:19

Oh well, you'll just have to grab an appointment for next Friday. I don't think either of mine would have gone to the GP about something like this with my mum or their dad either! Best of luck.

tilliebob · 16/03/2014 12:30

Thanks, she's a bit better today - it's eased off a bit and she's not bleeding through everything now. I've done a helluva washing over this weekend! Might take her before we go away at the start if the Easter holidays. That happening in a flipping caravan would not be ideal.

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AlpacaLypse · 16/03/2014 12:54

Eeek no! It would be a nightmare in a caravan!

I was prescribed Tranexamic Acid for very heavy bleeding - I'm one of the unfortunates who get heavier more frequent periods at menopause.

It is truly wonderful stuff. The only downside is the sheer size of the pills, but they don't taste nasty if you do end up having to crunch them a bit to get them down.

tilbatilba · 16/03/2014 13:16

Hi - similar experience here though I didn't do anything about it for 6 months as I thought she would settle. Then was prescribed the pill for 18months and is now taking Tranexamic Acid as she didn't like the side effects of the pill. 6 months of heavy periods was enough to make her severely iron deficient - Ferritin level of 3 . 18months later she is still having to take daily iron tablets - anaemia affected her terribly.

youbethemummylion · 16/03/2014 13:38

If there isnt time to get on top of this before hos there is somethind GPs can pescribe which delay the period. I used to have horrendous periods and mum always took me to docs to get these before hols. No idea what they were called though.

siren45 · 16/03/2014 19:24

So this is only her second period? My daughter had two or three very heavy periods similar to what you describe and then it settled down. Personally I would wait a few more months before taking her to the doctor and especially before putting her on any medication. Obviously she's going to need a lot of support (as you are already doing) - it's a traumatic time for mums and daughters alike. Good luck!

MeepMeepVrooom · 16/03/2014 19:28

Take her to the docs. I was the same and fainted maybe half a dozen times before going and they gave me something (sorry really unhelpful) to lessen the flow and also put me on the pill.

The combination worked. Years later I came off the tablets and the pill and I haven't had any problems since.

What a shame for her.

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tilliebob · 16/03/2014 20:24

It's actually her third..muddled up with my dates. Jan, Feb, March...pretty regular already (I remember having about 3 periods, in total,in the first year) . Same story every time.

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mathanxiety · 17/03/2014 00:48

I was completely regular from the start and so were my sisters and now my DDs. Mine have never changed their pattern since I was 13.5, either, so there is no guarantee at all that things will settle down naturally.

If you haven't already made an appointment, please do it for your DD's sake. Don't sit on your hands while she has to go through another round of this misery and anxiety.

I can't imagine the misery of this in a caravan with no privacy, which she very obviously needs.

VenusDeWillendorf · 17/03/2014 02:15

You need to get a referral for a gynae. from your GP. Don't get fobbed off.
She needs a scan to make sure she hasn't fibroids or cysts.
Is she hairy? Has she got acne?

It's not usual to have such a heavy flow month after month when starting off.

Your gynae may do a DnC to clear away the endometrium a bit, and she may have to go on some kind of hormonal contraception.
She won't know herself when she's back to normal, and it will help her emotionally as well to be the same as her friends.

No need for everyone to know especially if she's feeling sensitive about it.

Woo disclaimer
Taking the homeopathic remedy sepia may help if she's teary when she's having her period, and pulsatilla if its making her very shy, and seems to have become less emotionally robust. Get these in boots chemist or nelsons.
I found both these these brilliant (also going on the pill seemed to sort me out)

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