So wondering what's normal, my husband of two years has a daughter of 13yo with his ex wife, my SC.
I had a baby 6 months ago my DH came home tonight saying his daughter wants him to go to her drama end of year show at the end of term. He said he only has one ticket and I say that's fine (as it's the last thing I'd want to do) because I have a baby and he'd might cry and spoil it. Would you expect my husband to sit by himself or sit with his ex wife? I'm not sure if her partner is coming or not. What is normal and what is not? I'd rather he didn't sit with his ex wife but can I really say that?
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thatsnotmydog · 21/06/2022 19:35
Kanaloa · 21/06/2022 23:29
I think if you marry a man who is a father you need to stop thinking ‘he is sitting with his ex’ and start think ‘he is attending a family event with the mother of his child.’ If you said you don’t want him to sit next to his child’s mother you would sound childish and petty - think of the stress it puts on a young girl if she knows her parents (the two people she loves most in the world) can’t even sit next to each other when supporting her.
I think even if you’re separated it’s so so important to be as civil (even friendly) as possible for the children. Your relationship not working out is no excuse to put the kids in an awkward situation. Showing a united front when supporting her is the mature and reasonable course of action here.
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