Hi would like people perspectives on a matter. My ex has a child with me and another 2 from previously. He had all 3 kids from friday-sunday.
On the friday while our child was at nursery in the afternoon My ex bought the other 2 kids mcdonalds but nothing for our child, surely he should have bought some for her too for when she got home or just waited another hour untill she finished and they could have mcdonalds together.
Am i being ridiculous or was this quite unfair on the youngest.
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user4327 · 12/06/2022 22:19
Bb16103 · 13/06/2022 08:00
I know the circumstances are different but I understand what OP means, McDonalds in our house we treat it as a treat not a regular. DH has 2 children. A few years back the oldest was at a party & I’d given the younger one lunch, 2 hours later the elder was collected by DH & youngest. DH asked if the oldest was hungry just as they were coming up to McDonald’s & of course he said yes, he could see what was coming up as it’s right near our home. DH bought one for the oldest not the youngest & youngest was sobbing inconsolably not allowed one, as he’d had lunch at home. I was fuming with DH as oldest was as a party with pizza & cake, so imo both boys had eaten & to the youngest it looked like favouritism, where it’s been hyped up to be a treat. It wasn’t about the food it was the feeling of being treated less well.
washingwakeup · 13/06/2022 10:56
They're not together, so probably not.
IstayedForTheFeminism · 13/06/2022 10:30
I might be making a hell of an assumption but I thought maybe the youngest told her about it & felt put out.
Surely it's more likely that OP asked her DP what he'd done with the dc and he told her he took DC1 and 2 to McDs and then picked up DC3?
MintyMoocow · 13/06/2022 06:38
Are you jealous of your stepchildren OP? It sounds like it. Be very careful, you absolutely have the power to destroy these children’s lives.
Take a good look at yourself!
IstayedForTheFeminism · 13/06/2022 10:30
I might be making a hell of an assumption but I thought maybe the youngest told her about it & felt put out.
Surely it's more likely that OP asked her DP what he'd done with the dc and he told her he took DC1 and 2 to McDs and then picked up DC3?
Bb16103 · 13/06/2022 08:00
I know the circumstances are different but I understand what OP means, McDonalds in our house we treat it as a treat not a regular. DH has 2 children. A few years back the oldest was at a party & I’d given the younger one lunch, 2 hours later the elder was collected by DH & youngest. DH asked if the oldest was hungry just as they were coming up to McDonald’s & of course he said yes, he could see what was coming up as it’s right near our home. DH bought one for the oldest not the youngest & youngest was sobbing inconsolably not allowed one, as he’d had lunch at home. I was fuming with DH as oldest was as a party with pizza & cake, so imo both boys had eaten & to the youngest it looked like favouritism, where it’s been hyped up to be a treat. It wasn’t about the food it was the feeling of being treated less well.
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