We have 5 kids. My 2 SC are the concern. Sd is 6 and ss 7. They were removed from mums care due to suspected abuse as mum has MH issues and too many children to cope with. We have them full time but they go for the occasional holiday.
Mum won't discuss children's welfare with dh and actively obstructs with clear attempts at parental alienation towards us. E.g children aren't allowed to touch dh, tell him they love him, etc, they do eventually but takes a while for them to feel safe enough to do so.
Ss has told me that he has to care for his 2 younger siblings when with mum, making bottles, changing nappies etc as mummy gets too tired, he is 7 ffs! She never takes them out the house and has pulled out 3 of his teeth as she thought they were wobbly.
Last visit she shaved his hair off as he wanted to grow it like the other lads at school but she wanted to get back at dh. She wont give them clothes, throws any toys we have bought them away, and sd has stayed up for over 24 hrs on a number of occasions as she doesn't monitor them.
Collected them yesterday after a week away, getting sd ready for bed and not only has her severe excema not been treated( mummy says i have to do it myself now) she has cuts and bruises on her as if she has been grabbed. Both the children have said they know what happened but don't want to say. They are behaving in a very scared way. If it was a child they would have grassed them up so we think it might be something else. We also don't want to put them under any pressure as they have so much phycological stuff from mum, they collect a list of bad things to tell her when they visit as she likes to interview them.
Wanting some advice really, should we tackle mum? Should we take to drs and explain situation. They are not due to visit again for a few weeks.
Social services are not helpful btw, they would visit mum but she is very good at covering up so have said there is no issue. Writing it down has been helpful, it is by no means everything but we can see from this that the situatin is far from normal. Its just a difficult judgement call. If anyone has been through something similar we're desperate for some advice.
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Darkgiraffe14 · 09/04/2017 06:50
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