My DD has been an 'only' for 5 years and is a well behaved child HOWEVER we are a couple of months in of being a blended family and encountering some problems with her behaviour that I've not seen before.
She adores my oh's children and looks forward to the times they are all together. We each have 50/50 and the overlap is 2 nights and a Saturday day.
Thing is when they are all together, her behaviour can change at the flip of a switch. She is just hyper and over excited the whole time.
She tries to look after the youngest one. She will pass him a cup, for example, if he can't reach. He will get angry for her trying to help him.and then she will get angry that he didn't appreciate her trying to help and will call him names. He will then have a paddy that my DD is being mean. I will tell her that names aren't acceptable and she'll stop....until the next time. So my issue with her and the youngest dss is, how do I teach her that whilst it's lovely to help, he is a toddler who doesn't like to be helped? I've told my oh that he does need to step in with his Ds as there are occasions where he really does need help.
My main issue is with my oh's ds who is a similar age to my DD (5 and 6).
My DD and him don't always see eye to eye in the house. They play lovely when it's just the two of them, but when the youngest/my oh is here they don't.
He will say something to her that she may not like (I don't want to play with you anymore or stop humming kind of thing) and again she'll retaliate by saying something mean/names etc. And then will get angry and pinch. To make matters worse my oh has told his son that if my DD hurts him in anyway, he is allowed to hurt my DD back (I totally don't agree but I'm not sure what to do?!). She also likes winding him up and will say her drawing is better than his, that her playdoh sculpture Is better. It just becomes a battle.
Sometimes when she lashes out/pinches she is in a 'lunatic/hyper' state and thinks it's funny. I tell her off, send her to her room/put her on time out step, but it does nothing to stop the behaviour.
What's weird is if we have a day out, or even walk to the shop, soft play etc, there are NO problems with anyone. It is ONLY in the house??
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How do I stop my DD being so hyper/playing up when dsc here?
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Whitechester · 28/11/2016 07:50
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