Step kids calling you mum by accident - how to deal with it?

[SteppingOnToes]

It's not long since I have met my partner's kids and things have been going smoothly so far - they seem relaxed with me and are nice kids. Yesterday we were had finished colouring in pet rocks and shoe boxes for them to live in, we were sat on the sofa watching cat videos with his 5yo son snuggled up to me. He asked me a question and accidentally called me mum by mistake. He didn't seem to realise he said it (and neither did his 10yo DD who was sat on the other side of me) and I didn't say anything - I didn't want to make a big deal about it and potentially upset and embarrass him (we've all been there when we've called teacher mum/dad and it's mortifying).

But the question is - if it happens again WTF do I do?!?!

Disclaimer - I don't have children and have never dated anyone with kids either so this is all new to me...

[Livelovebehappy]

I think you're reading far too much into it. Why do you think he called you mum?

[throwingpebbles]

My Dsc do this sometimes, I just carry on as I know they mean me and it's a slip of the tongue.
My kids also do it to my other half, my little one in particular often calls him dad as she hears his kids call him that. Again we just don't react.

My kids also often call me dad by mistake on and off for the first day or so after they get back from their dads.

[IneedAdinosaurNickname]

My children call me Grandma when they come home from her house. Then laugh and tell me I have less wrinkles

They have once or twice called me Daddy when they've been at his house. I was tempted to sell them for that

[RebootYourEngine]

I have been called everything ie mum, dad, granny by my dn. Mum is a word that most kids use so many times in a day that it usually just slips out without them thinking.

[BeattieBowRisenFromTheDead]

Sorry, I missed all this. No offence was intended I'm apparently not at my most eloquent when tapping things out on my mobile phone so will bow out of this thread before I put my foot in it again!

[MrsTrentReznor]

Cub leader here. I've been called Mum!
It's because they are relaxed around you I reckon.

[OzzieFem]

OP - That's really nice, she sounds like a very sensible woman who has her kids best interests at heart.

[SteppingOnToes]

Met his ex for lunch today. Went really well and ended up a 3 hour natter :) she's really nice and one of the things she said to me was that the kids are quite cuddly and not to feel awkward if they do want to sit on my knee and stuff as she doesn't have an issue with it. She said the kids have talked about me a lot and she's glad that I interact with them and they are comfortable with me :)

[OzzieFem]

My niece when still quite young called me mum in front of hers, (my sister). Instead of thinking that it was nice that she felt comfortable with me, or her daughter just thought of most females as a 'mum' figure, she got immediately uptight. She grabbed her daughter up from the carpet where we were sitting, hugged her to her chest saying loudly "She's not your mum I am". The look I got! I had to back right off after that.

Mums can be funny and possessive, so I would just leave it there, say nothing, and ignore it if it happens again.

[euromum]

My daughter once called me her teacher's name by accident - I was quite pleased to know she obviously likes her a lot, but a bit about what she thought of me as a mum!

[bluebell9]

Both my DSC have called me Mum by accident. I don't say anything unless they realise and they we just laugh it off.
I wouldn't worry about it too much.

My niece also calls me Mum sometimes, she laughs it off too.

[SteppingOnToes]

Ha ha Marshmellow - why is there no like button lol

[Marshmallowsandcream]

It's a slip of the tongue, don't worry. And he must have felt relaxed around you to do that. I don't think there's any need to do or say anything to anyone.

My dd called me "Miss" once. I told her there was no need, that "mum" would do but that she still needed to put her hand up if she wanted to ask something .

[SandyY2K]

Say nothing even if it happens again. My nieces have called me mum, although they realised and said oh I mean Auntie Sandy.

I think if you were being addressed that way .i.e. hello mum , that would be different.

[Smidge001]

Blimey. Beattie wasn't implying you were an idiot at all. I read it as completely kind and friendly advice. Don't know how you can read anything bad into it at all.

[DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen]

Oh good grief, it's not. Best of luck with everything.

[SteppingOnToes]

DD - but that's implying I'm a total idiot. Why would I even think he would? All I asked was how to handle it if it happens again.

[DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen]

You're reading it wrong OP. Beatie is saying don't worry about him calling you mum as there's no way he'd get you mixed up with his mum so it's not an issue.


Sorry Beatie, I'm speaking for you

[SteppingOnToes]

I get that from the last line of the post - Beattie's own words

[DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen]

Beatie wasn't suggesting that at ALL, where on earth did you get that from OP?

[SteppingOnToes]

Beatie - I didn't think he was getting me mixed up. I don't know why you would even suggest as such. It's difficult for me and I find it a little cruel that you are taking the mick/suggesting that I'm an idiot :(

[ChocolateForAll]

I'd also take it as a compliment. I don't think any further action is required.

[PrincessHairyMclary]

I get called "mum" or even "sir" at school all the time it's not an issue as others have said ignore if it's just a mistake. If he. Starts doing it frequently maybe work with him to think of another nickname for you.

DD often comes back from her Dads and calls her Grandad and uncle "Dad" by mistake too

[BeattieBowRisenFromTheDead]

I'm with DD, my first thought was of teachers getting called 'mum' at school.

It's just a slip of the tongue I think. Take it as a compliment that he feels comfortable with you, but I wouldn't assume that he's getting you mixed up!

[SteppingOnToes]

DD - thankyou for being so kind.

My biggest worry was that I would dislike his kids but they're absolutely wonderful :)

Now my biggest worry is that tomorrow is going to all go tits up eek