Dss has arrived this weekend with a school letter about a holiday trip skiing and told is his mum has told him he has to tell us we have to pay £800 so he can go. It isn't an educational trip, it is just a social holiday for themZ
Dss is a bit of a wimp, he is terrified of the idea of skiing but his best friend is going so he wants to go.
I am livid that dp's exw hasn't discussed this trip with us first. She has told him he can go and to tell us we need to pay for it. We now have to break dss's heart by saying no because there is no way we can afford it.
The initial issue is the financial settlement is supposed to be 50% of trips so she is expecting us to pay 100% or this trip is £1600!
£800 will bring our family budget to its knees. Dsd, Dss and dd would have to sacrifice birthday/Christmas presents. I wouldn't be able to see any of my family and as a whole family we couldn't have any days out, holidays new things and all treats would have to stop.
We don't spend a lot now, we pay for an annual family pass to a local attraction (not Alton towers or the like) And a day out is often local parks or free museums. But we do try and take them swimming because Dss can't swim so we are trying to raise his confidence.
What do we do? Do already works 12 hour nights so can't take on a second job, I would but we would have no one to look after dd without paying for it which would wipe out any earnings. I love that boy but there is no way we can send him. Does anyone have any ideas??
I have told dp he needs to speak to his exw about it all. She has form for doing this but previously it has been £200 (total cost) trips which is a bit easier to find when you have 6 months to pay. It seems this £800 needs to be paid before Xmas.
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wheresthel1ght · 29/05/2016 06:45
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