Hello. I posted regarding a situation on the relationship boards a couple week ago. Just come across this board and has things are still no better thought maybe some other step mums on my position.
Basically my step son is 9 (in year 4). I have been with his father since before he was born (bit complicated but I wasnt the other woman). Since we had our eldest together who is almost 8 step son has stayed with us every second weekend and more in holidaya. It wasnt until I was pregnant with ds his mum agreed to let him start staying with us regually - she realised we were serious I think. Before she was always really awkward with him eg can only see son if I wasnt around things like that.
Im first to admit I dont think husband has the same bond with ss has he does with our children something that he is working on. So couple weeks ago it came to light that ss wasnt happy he would tell his mum he wasnt happy when he comes to us and then say same about his mum. Obviously he is feeling quite left out he has 3 younger half siblings in one house and then another 2 in another house.
His mum doesnt seem to be very maternal with him at all, she doesnt seem to be pleased to have him home or anything. He was saying shes shouting at everyone all time. We were discussing him coming to stay with us on a permanent basis but not sure how to approach her.
We are already having him first week of Easter holidays but im guessing if other holidays are anything to go by he will be here longer.
I just feel sometimes that she takes mick, she knows We have 2 kids with additional needs. For example during holidays he asked to cut maintenance as he was with us and we were strugglig to go places with 4 kids and yes she agreed but then did nothing but pester for this and that. School pants for example he is actually same size as my son and had a couple of spare pairs but she wasnt happy with that said they didnt fit when he tried them on here and they did. It is just silly petty things like that.
Loads more has gone on all very petty, but trying to over rose it for ss. You can tell hes not happy at all im not saying its all down to mother, i appreciate his lifestyle is chaotic compared to out own children.
Any advice?
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ddeemummy · 29/02/2016 16:15
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