Hello, just to be clear up front, dh and dss (nearly 13) get a lot of one on one time, dss lives with us 50:50 now ( nearly half a year) they do PC stuff together, go to the cinema together, watch TV together, go swimming together...
I anticipated a lot of closeness between father and son when I (readily agreed) to have dss move in, I just wrongly assumed that the "newness" would wear off a bit and dss would do more with my ds or have friends round or visit friends occasionally.
I have read other threads on the same topic and feel that in a lot of the cases mentioned it is the dss either unwilling or somehow unable to mix with peers.
I feel my dh has found his own idea of heaven now that dss has moved in and the two of them can be a "couple" doing all their fav things, without a pesky woman (mum or me) interfering. After all, if I complain then I'm stopping them sharing quality time and being mean and jealous, right?!?
I've recently worked up a lot confidence and tackled dh on misogyny and pull him up on any condescending remarks thrown my way, and felt that he was making progress (he does contribute to housework, etc, that's not the issue) but given half the chance he'd rather spend his evenings sharing inane man PC stuff with dss even when they've already spend the weekend together, like right now.
I feel like going upstairs and asserting my spousal rights to one on one time too, but I'd rather dh felt a need to want adult female company (outside the bedroom), what should I do, anybody with dh who doesn't want to grow up?
I know it sounds a bit petty, but dh recently moved a photo with him and dss to a "special" place, away from the other family photos, including a photo of me? I feel dss has become a rival, through no fault of his own....
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Notagaindamnit · 21/07/2013 19:40
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