Alot has happened since I posted on here last year, my OH and I got married just before Christmas last year, we were at first thinking to go away just the two of us but after giving it some thought I realised it wasn't fair to ask my OH to be without his daughter so we got married at home with our closest friends and family. I asked my DSD (9) to be my bridesmaid. The night before the wedding she spent it with me and 3 of my best girlfriends we put Christmas music on danced around made non alcoholic cocktails and had a pamper party, she loved it and at 6 am the next morning we were all awoken by her shouting 'You're getting married' at the top of her lungs!!! very sweet.
She was absolutely wonderful and I was so very proud of her she looked so beautiful. Our wedding was perfect..the day after DSD was collected by her mum as they were going away for Christmas and New Year (we were not happy about not seeing her at all for 2 weeks..another story) Fast forward to our honeymoon..
Due to my work schedule I had to leave the UK for a month 10 days after our wedding and so we booked our honeymoon for my return in February.
A few days into our honeymoon and my DH got the most vile manipulative text from his Ex girlfriend saying thank you for putting DSD last, for swanning off on holiday leaving her for and entire 10 days with his daughter. "organising childcare" as she puts it, she works part time and her mum regularly has her. We booked our honeymoon in November and she knew the dates all seemed to be fine.
We have shared care so half the time we have her it's not every other weekend we see her often and she stays with us like I said half the time, we live close to her mother (too close if you ask me!) so it's never really an issue of when we have her. DH is involved in everything DSD does.
I am so tired of this woman, I'm tired of her feeling she's entitled to walk through our lives whenever she feels like it, after we got back DH went to see her and told her she was out of line and those kinds of texts are unhelpful and cause friction, she apparently apologised and gave DH a spread sheet of the days we are to have her...I am fuming! I know there needs to be flexibility, i'm open to that I don't want DSD to feel unwelcome or to be messed about. However the exes insistence on trying to rule our lives is maddening. Why can't she just call and say 'I know it's not your day but would you mind if..'
Am I being unfair? I have said nothing to her thus far but I feel it won't be long before I lose my rag with her!!
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Lilypad34 · 27/03/2013 14:58
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