I did something really stupid today (on here) because I am so wound up about DH going to court next month. I've apologised, but it made me realise that I need to get a grip and maybe ask for some help/support to cope with the next few weeks.
To try to keep it brief, DH has applied for increased holiday contact for his son. He has a contact order already (pretty standard EOW stuff) which was hell to get, took 4 years. Ex has MH issues and is still, after many years, ruminating about every incident in their very short relationship. Her family enable her endlessly so she is used to having everyone do as she says.
DSS really wants to have more holiday time with Dad generally, and is desparate to come on our family holiday in the summer. He has said so to the Cafcass officer and they have recommended pretty much everything DH has asked for. So it should be straightforward.
However, we don't get legal aid and can't afford legal representation (ex does and has had a barrister for hearings) and ex's statement is full of outright lies (and very odd, paranoid ones, too, like DH is taping all their convo's and gave DSS a DS game thing to take photos of her house???). She also says she sat DSS down and told him the recommendations of the Cafcass Officer and asked him if that was what he really wanted and he cried and said it wasn't ().
And now DSS is wildly excited about coming on holiday, because he thinks the recommendations mean he can come, asking loads of questions about it, etc, and DH and I are sick with worry that the court won't grant it. We don't know whether to try and tackle the accusations in court or whether that will look like bickering, or stay dignified and child-centred and risk the other side's barrister taking DH apart on the stand. He gets so nervous before court dates he is physically sick.
And even if they do grant it, she might pull some kind of stunt to stop him coming. I'm starting to wish we had never applied for it.
So anything anyone can say would be great.
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Really stressed about court coming up - please reassure me (long, sorry)
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balia · 13/11/2012 22:01
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