I guess this is the age old complaint isn't it?
I am lucky enough to get on ok with dh's daughters mum really. However, what was a silly thing has grown out of all proportion due to her not supporting us over this matter.
Dsd is 13, and we have recently had a baby. My dh has been really diligent to make sure dsd feels included. We let her keep the big warm room, so our little one has the tiny cold one. We have acknowledged it may be difficult for her... Talked to her about it, encouraged her to help as much or as little as she wants with her baby sister. Etc. She seems to love her sister which is great and has had no problems so far. My dh tries to spend time with her, but like an teenager she'd rather be on msn or facebook.
Anyway, he is still giving her lifts to clubs etc three nights a week even though it is very inconvenient when trying to get the baby into a routine and let me het food down me- one night he is out ferrying her till 7pm as not worth him driving home... So last week he goes to pick her up. She isn't out on time, doesn't answer her mobile. Is 15mins late and rude to her dad in front of her mates. So he tells her off for being rude and not answering phone. She screams at him, and had refused to talk to him since and didn't come round for the nights she normally spends with us.
My dh is devastated and spoken to her mum every day since. Her mum just says oh, you are making a big deal of nothing, wait till she forgets about it and let it blow over... She is just upset about your new baby! Why did you have a go about her being rude?
Am I missing something? Shouldn't her mum being sending her round to apologise for being rude and not pandering to her. She should not be using baby sister as an excuse, when dh has tried to spend time and been rejected before I wad even preg, let alone since the baby was born. Now she is learning she can get away with rudeness if she blames it on something and my dh is in bits! He is texting her daily with no reply.
We understand that she may be finding it hard but don't want to put up with rudeness when doing so much for her! Sorry to rant... Any ideas about how to deal with this?
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Grrr- dsd's mum not supporting dh in discipline
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Samraves · 01/02/2011 11:59
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