Should I tell my friend I suspect her son may have aspergers?

[noonki]

Hi

I am really unsure about what to do. During a work training day we covered some information about aspergers syndrome.

The characteristics given of someone with the syndrome are very similar to those displayed by my bf's little boy.

Her son is four. My friend has had concerns about his behaviour in social situations. He has never been very interested in forming friendships, his pretend play is always about machines, never people. His language though quite developed is somewhat over formal and he gets puzzled by similies and they seem to worry him. He has a number of obsessive behaviours well over and above the other children we know of a similar age. Also He sleeps poorly.

Of course he may not have aspergers as I don't know all that much about the subject. But my question really is should I approach her with this information or not? ANd if I do, do you know or a good starting point for assistance for them?

My friend is quite defensive about his behaviour, hence some of my retience at approaching her. Though she has a few times acknowledged that he has some unusual behaviours. He is at nursery and is enjoying it. But at times she struggles with his behaviour as he can be very naughty and challenging.

Would it matter if he did have apergers and it went undiagnosed, or if he was diagnosed what would the benefits be for him, if any?

any advice as to what I should do would be gratefully received.

[noonki]

Thnaks lingle - have justed looked that up and it seems a positive step, compared to when I was at school.