Really stuck....could do with yout input!!!!!

[JaysMum]

Hi Guys.
I really am in a terrible tizz and dont know what to do.
As you know I have been fighting to get J into the local special school and he has been granted a placement from Sept 05. In the meantime I have been home educating and he has had access to the special school placement for two hours on a Friday afternoon.
He has attended 5 times in total now. The class teacher is lovely and she has recognised that J has many problems with his ability to complete the school work set fo him by his previous school.
She has made many suggestions for different strategies for us to try at home to help with J's reading and writing difficulties.....remember these are problems that according to his old mainstream school did not excist!!!!

This afternoon after a big session of spinning, J said he needed talks. So I sat with him and in his own way he has told me he doesnt like the new school. He doesnt like the children in his class, they scare him and he wants to go to a "big proper school".he said that he feels ready to go back to school now and wants to know if he can go back to school soon.

The head from hell at his old school is away from school and has been for the past three weeks...on matters pending??? Whatever that means????
Two weeks ago I was contacted by the B of gov's at the school. They asked me to write to them to clarify my concerns I had about the treatment J had received at the hands of the head from hell. I did this and I can only presume the disaapearance of the head is somehow related to problems within the school relating to SEN children being subjected to abuse from the monster.

J is now most insistant that he does not want to go back to the special school.....he doesnt how ever want to go back to his old mainstream school....what the hell do I do????

I have contacted admissions and there are no vacancies at any of the local mainsteream schools apart from his old school!!!!!

I really am in a tizz and dont know what to do. J's happiness is the most important thing to me. I have had my reservations about the special school placement being the right environment for J. He has speech difficulties and cant always communicate what he wants to tell me. I worry that he will mimic the behaviours of the other children in his class. He did say that he finds some of the work too easy and all they do is "play games and stuff".

J could cope well in a mainstream school environment if it was a school that had understanding of ASD and if he had a LSA who had experience of ASD. J has Dyslexia so we also need to know his school could cope with his difficulties with reading and writing.
J's old LSA is still employed at his old mainstream school as J's LSA, because we have not removed J's name from the school register she still has her job????Makes sense doesnt it.....really good use of LEA's budget!!!!
The LSA wasnt that clued up on ASD at all....but J liked her.His class teacher hadnt got a clue what ASD was and the SENCO....well she just isnt worth the air she breathes!!!!
I would rather gauge my eyes out than send J back to that school.....but its the only one that has a space for J.
Oh help has any one got any ideas because I am sure as hell I havent got a bloody clue what to do!!!!!

[JaysMum]

Had a feeling last night I would receive a letter from the LEA today......why do they always send post out on a Friday?
my suspicions were

[JaysMum]

Oh poo.....what did I do?????

anyway my suspicions were right and in the postbox this morning was a familiar looking envelope!!!!!

The LEA have now agreed to put Link Education in place for the grand total of 5 hours a week.

So J is getting in total 7 hours a week from the LEA.

I have a meeting on Monday with the teacher at special school. She has given me the whole afternoon to sit down and discuss J's difficulites.

J appears to be a lot happier today.....he really enjoyed yesterdays session at the special school. B's mom has talked to B and told him not to keep talking to J about going back to his old school.....and so far J has not mentioned anything today about his old mainstream.....but has nattered about what happened yesterday at sp.school for red nose day.
B's mom asked him if he likes his teachers and he said the are uvvly....she thought he said ugly....he meant lovely!!!

I am sure I will feel more positive after my meeting on Monday and agree it is about J's needs and not his wants.

thanks for your input.
JMxx

[coppertop]

It's all so up and down, isn't it? Wishing you lots of luck for the meeting tomorrow and fingers crossed that B doesn't go giving J any more ideas about going back to his old school.

[Davros]

They ALWAYS send stuff on a Friday just to spoil your weekend (so do the Inland Revenue!). I think its for 2 reasons, first so you can't get on the phone immediately if you're upset and second because they only get their work done at the end of the week